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  • There will be plenty of time as you get to know a person later on that you can meet at a bar for a drink which isn’t and shouldn’t be a big deal.

    You can get to first know the person as is with a coffee. Coffee or tea doesnt change a personality. Alcohol can.

    If they can’t handle just going for a coffee and get all weirdly defensive about you not having a drink that it’s a red flag.

    Alcohol can mask if they are an alcoholic on your first meet. And if they are insistent about getting alcohol as a first meet and make it a big deal like it’s their ‘everything’ that is telling you they are likely an alcoholic. That’s how addicts are about the thing they are addicted to.

    Red flags aren’t something you accommodate. It’s something you take as a warning sign.







  • manipulators can be either party though. You have the manipulators swearing they didnt do it and you have the manipulators trying to extort.

    You also have people who don’t understand what they did was rape and while they claim they didnt rape: the details are exactly that.

    And often rapists are more believed over a rape victim.

    Hence why it often takes multiple victims for a rape charge.

    Also false accusation is not the same as inconclusive.

    Lots of nuance.