Yeah one of my very close friends has been hurt by early dysfunctional situations and as a result has a super-sensitive fine-tuned judgement of personal character. I’ve known him for almost 30 years and have learned that if he tells you he doesn’t trust someone you should listen to him, even if you don’t see the reason, because he’s running on 100% accuracy.
It’s honestly depressing to have this ‘power’. I always see the con coming, try to warn those close to me, and get stuck just having to suck it up. Frequently with a manipulative child and her own toxic nightmare of a child.
I’ve met a number of people in life who seem to have been raised in nearly perfect circumstances: intelligent, loving parents who gave them the right about of support and structure.
They’re not idiots but they aren’t afraid to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. You might think they must get taken advantage of left and right, but most of these people are also pretty privileged so not traveling in very dangerous circles.
I’ve watched them give someone WAY more trust than I think is wise. Sometimes I turn out to be the idiot and realize they were making a good investment all along.
And in those cases where I turn out to be right, they just realize “oh, this is a bad person,” and they pivot away and move on with their lives.
It’s hard to build friendships, relationships, and even things like business partnerships without trust, and these people have a lot of that to give. Sometimes they even inspire people to be better by giving that trust. In the end I think most of them have pretty full lives with a rich tapestry of people in them.
It really makes you think twice about whether it really is the safest and wisest course of action to be so highly critical and suspicious. Is that really what leads to safety and wellness for us? I think no. And it’s not even meant to - it’s just a way to try to avoid the absolute worst outcomes. And only people who’ve had a taste of that “worst” think like this. It truly is very damaging for them and that’s the saddest part: whatever abuse or wrongdoing they suffered limits them forever.
My wife is like this with nearly perfect accuracy
Yeah one of my very close friends has been hurt by early dysfunctional situations and as a result has a super-sensitive fine-tuned judgement of personal character. I’ve known him for almost 30 years and have learned that if he tells you he doesn’t trust someone you should listen to him, even if you don’t see the reason, because he’s running on 100% accuracy.
It’s honestly depressing to have this ‘power’. I always see the con coming, try to warn those close to me, and get stuck just having to suck it up. Frequently with a manipulative child and her own toxic nightmare of a child.
I’ve met a number of people in life who seem to have been raised in nearly perfect circumstances: intelligent, loving parents who gave them the right about of support and structure.
They’re not idiots but they aren’t afraid to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. You might think they must get taken advantage of left and right, but most of these people are also pretty privileged so not traveling in very dangerous circles.
I’ve watched them give someone WAY more trust than I think is wise. Sometimes I turn out to be the idiot and realize they were making a good investment all along.
And in those cases where I turn out to be right, they just realize “oh, this is a bad person,” and they pivot away and move on with their lives.
It’s hard to build friendships, relationships, and even things like business partnerships without trust, and these people have a lot of that to give. Sometimes they even inspire people to be better by giving that trust. In the end I think most of them have pretty full lives with a rich tapestry of people in them.
It really makes you think twice about whether it really is the safest and wisest course of action to be so highly critical and suspicious. Is that really what leads to safety and wellness for us? I think no. And it’s not even meant to - it’s just a way to try to avoid the absolute worst outcomes. And only people who’ve had a taste of that “worst” think like this. It truly is very damaging for them and that’s the saddest part: whatever abuse or wrongdoing they suffered limits them forever.
Aren’t you going to tell us how you slipped past her radar?
Copious amounts of what the kids call rizz
Ah so it was the rizz. All I could say for sure was that it was not Steve.