Some days, i feel happy, and other days i feel completely lost. I miss the bubbly innocent version of myself who could enjoy little things without overthinking everything. This breakup has changed me in ways I never expected. I don’t understand why I struggle to feel genuinely happy why crowded places make me anxious or why I sometimes feel like I’ll never heal from this. Is it normal to feel this way after a painful breakup.

Today is 38th day of no contact

  • cub Gucci@lemmy.today
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    13 days ago

    Yup, everything will be better. No, you won’t be feeling the same as you felt in your relationship

    In the first 6 months after a breakup I felt like shit internally. I did some silly stuff too. Experiment with new things and connections to rediscover yourself once again.

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      12 days ago

      Yeah i m trying, but i have no friends left after the relationship so it’s kinda hard to deal with everything alone:(

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        12 days ago

        Been there my friend. I only had a job and was doing sports I ended up quitting.

        I forced myself to meet new people: tinder, improv, English speaking club in my area, death cafe, local festivals, Marx reading club. I was full of cringe and physical pain due to cringe, but also met a fistful of nice people and my future wife.

        It’s not advice, but it worked for me. Doesn’t mean that it’d work for you or if I did something else I wouldn’t recover.

        Advice is not to buy easy solutions like hatered, neglect or ultimate egoism. These are easy to follow, but do not yield anything