The first comment. 🤣

You’re thinking like the old rules still apply. We’re in the end game now and those at the very top aren’t thinking about profits, they’re thinking about outright ownership over the ruins of civilisation.

If there’s still enough left of America to function after trump is done, I imagine the new government will come up with all kinds of new ways to undo a previous corrupt and disastrous presidency.

It’s insane that any country is still sharing any intelligence at all with the corrupt, inept US government.

I’m 46 years old and until just now I’d never seen or heard the term “anal hiccup.” I hope I never learn anything more about them.

Unless OP is imagining a period in which police have much more pressing concerns than who’s piling cars up against a rich people neighbourhood.

I am need loan!

It really is as far as I’m concerned. I told her dring the last visit that she voted to hurt other people because she thought it would be good for her, and that’s how I still see it. trump promised to do harm, even his supporters knew that.

I’m sure there’s ways to see it as a bad thing, but the idea of only letting experts on a subject speak publicly about the subjects sounds like it could be really beneficial, particularly in some areas.

Of course if universities are corrupted or controlled it’s definitely a bad thing. And of course shitty people are always going to be trying to control whatever mechanism or criteria keeps certain people from speaking.

But it’s a nice idea.

My wife is from Wisconsin, 10 years living in Australia. She tells people she’s “Southern Canadian.”

That’s the dream! 🤣 But it’s not the MIL I need to think about, it’s my wife.

I’m definitely not pushing my wife in any direction, just listening and supporting. I have a hard time sympathizing with her attachment to family as mine were abusive assholes and I cut ties with them years ago. I’ll never suggest she do the same, but it wouldn’t bother me at all if she does. I learned a long time ago not to rely on anyone else.

I’m being a little generous with that. I agree that they knew he was a piece of shit, but I think a lot of them thought he’d just hurt the people they look down on and not them.

you may idealize an honest pacifist who would value indirect communication higher than direct if direct would also come with conflict

This is the approach I’m going with, though I’d classify it more as isolation than indirect communication. Earlier this year I told the mother in law that her proud maga children are no longer welcome in my home and that turned into a bad night for everyone. After that night I decided I’d just keep myself away from her as much as possible.

She feels much the same as I do, and I know she struggles with it a lot. For me, the moment I found out, they all got moved into the category of trump supporters, who I have no time for. But for her, it’s obviously a much bigger deal. I don’t press her on how she should handle it, just support the way she chooses to.

Haha, my (likely autistic) wife and (autistic) daughters often tell me I am like it’s just a given!

Well, didn’t want to advertise the fact, but we got ourselves and our daughters out about 10 years ago, and a big driver of that was everything that’s happening now. I’ve never been a US citizen, but I lived there for a decade and have a lot of fondness for the place. My wife has always loved her country and considers herself a patriot, but she has no intention of ever setting foot on US soil again.

Excellent advice, truly. I’ll start practicing! Thank you.

You could probably make the case that I need to chill, but you seem to be making a few incorrect assumptions. I have no intention of interacting with my mother in law any more than absolutely necessary, and the sole reason she may be coming to visit ever again is because I don’t want to drive a wedge between my wife and her mother. I also don’t hold my wife’s family responsible, but by voting for him last November they all became part of the trump crowd who I collectively blame. No more, no less.

I’m definitely going to listen to that podcast. Thanks!

That’s the plan! 😜