I was hanging with a group consisting of mostly older millennial gay men who don’t like that trans people are being included alongside them in conversations about human rights, sexuality, and gender. They think it takes away from the fight their community has gone through over the past few generations.

I chewed them out. Like, a lot. I am usually not at all confrontational but I pretty much stunned them into silence. Now I’m waiting to let them process, expecting a couple to reach out to me to step back from some of the shit they were saying. If that doesn’t happen, I guess I’m not really welcome in that group anymore and I’m ok with that.

There are no trans people in this group. I’m not a gay man nor am I trans. But when I hear shit like that, I hear echos of gay men activists not being willing to work with lesbian women activists, white feminists not includig black women, male laborers trying to keep women out of labor rights movements. It’s stupid. It’s tribal and hateful. It undercuts the strength the movement could have if we weren’t asshats about it.

Rights campaigning 101, strength in unity. This is basic ass shit.

If you have to ask, probably don’t use it.

Easy peasy. Don’t want to be captured by surveillance cameras? You are free to not go where the cameras are.

Oh, are you not wealthy? Do you not have land? Do you not have access to food, power, other resources without venturing out to where these cameras are? Get more money and stop whining, you dirty poor.

This is why my infatuation with libertarianism that most teens seem to go through only lasted a week.

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Anytime we ask questions about poor people doing things to make a buck, you probably won’t find me talking negatively or blaming the people with few to no options.

I’ve been in a financial situation where selling my blood plasma was an easy, safe, guaranteed amount of money that kept me from getting deeper into the hole. I’m not going to knock anyone who does it, only the shitty social services that fail people to the point they have to sell their plasma to survive.

This is what I would choose, standalone rather than something that attaches to the laptop and folds out.

Attaching, hanging off the side, potential to be bumped, all the weight hanging out cheap laptop hinges. It seems like high risk of things getting loose and damaged, both the extra monitor and the base laptop.

I don’t have trouble explaining. I keep it high level and generic because 99 times out of 100, people are just making small talk and want to know just enough about you to categorize you.

You mean I could get paid to be told what my favorite artist is? Little ol’ indecisive me? Sold!

I like the various mythologies for psychopomps; Anubis, Charon, grim reapers, Azrael, Vanth, valkyries, etc.

Figure out how to make and keep friends. It only gets more difficult as people are out of school, have their own families, have less time for short-notice adventures, etc.

At the same time, figure out what you want in a friend that is worth investing in to you. Not every friend is worth keeping as we all naturally grow in different directions.

Same. I have very cautiously taken some recommendations from my brother and liked them. But for every one I liked, there were 100 I didn’t and the online weirdos who got way too intense about them.

What do the videos look like on her phone?

If they’re shit there, it’s the phone (or the operator). If they look good there and change to shit when they get to your phone, it’s something in that process. Perhaps set to send a low res version by default.

Put 3/4 on the hit and 1/4 betting on the stock market reaction only you know is coming. Profit. Repeat.

State College in the late 00s. For sure we stayed up late, solving the world’s problems (theoretically) as only young, not-yet-jaded people can. There were also people who couldn’t go three days without getting blackout drunk and I tended not to be good friends with them due to lack of common interests.

I also didn’t meet a single Jewish person until after I graduated college, there just isn’t much of a Jewish population where I grew up, so I’m deeply skeptical of that theory.

So most people being allegedly cancelled are batshit or racist? … Why is cancelling bad then?

There’s few cases of non batshit, non racist ppl being cancelled. The best example you could think of, you acknowledge wasn’t actually cancelling.

I’m not getting it.

You’ve expressed no reason to change, so yes, stay the same until there’s a reason to spend millions of dollars and upend established systems.

So he wasn’t cancelled. Some people were critical of how he said some things. That’s the way people work.

I could post “the best spaghetti sauce recipe” and I would get people telling me I’m an idiot and wrong about Italian culture and blah blah blah. That’s not cancellation. Any opinion, no matter how benign, gets crap on the internet.

Those details are unnecessary for this conversation. Cops used Facebook private messages to build a case to prosecute an illegal abortion.

They have established the process and the precedent, next time it will be a woman only 5 months pregnant. Or who has an ectopic pregnancy and is past six weeks. Or was raped. Or isn’t in a financial situation suitable for raising a child. Or simply doesn’t want a child. It doesn’t matter the details, cops have and will use private messages to prosecute women getting abortions.

The arguments that “because of her one comment about wanting to wear jeans again means she was just a careless, shallow woman who didn’t want to take responsibility for her actions and got what she deserved” is a load of crap. Not saying you are doing that solely, but that is not a good argument for not caring about privacy.

Because I don’t see a reason to change. And changing would cost a lot of money and effort and impact. You’re the one proposing a change - why?

No. Why should we?