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  • I think we may be (re)-discovering the appeal of monotheistic religions, and why they hew patriarchal.

    On average, men desperately need more mental health resources. But, on average, they are not comfortable building that with other men, and it often isn’t appropriate or effective to lean on their female significant other (if a straight man).

    So - enter the primary description of ‘God’. Can listen any time but will always forgive, is super masculine but won’t emasculate you, and has never told another soul what you are thinking.

    AI is always available and is unlikely to emasculate anyone, but that third item… Well, we’ll see where this goes.


  • Ooohhh I see, I am judgemental because your circumstances and stated preferences represent everyone in a hard place.

    If you both could have and would have done it, it is completely reasonable to make that an expectation on everyone who struggles.

    Your struggle was definitely representative of the worst circumstances bc you had 1 job and were a single parent – even though I mentioned how plenty of parents (including single ones) balance a FT job and gigs or a managerie of gigs. Or a FT job, single parenthood, and a disability. Or…

    If you can’t see past your own life and circumstance, but want to proscribe what other people ‘should’ do (or no longer deserve your empathy), you are the one who is judgemental.





  • I’ve seen my coworkers take paternity leave, which I think is like 8 weeks where I work.

    Generally, they’ve staggered it with their spouse so that one parent is working and the other on child care, rather than both being out over the same window. Typically the Dad’s have taken their leave a couple months after the baby is born when Mom is returning to work. It keeps the baby out of daycare for as long as possible.