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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • I don’t think you’re being taken advantage of financially. I imagine you’ve spent less money than any option for three weeks of sleeping accommodations in Switzerland aside from living with your parents, for example.

    I do think there’s a significant chance there’s a mismatch in expectations though. If you intend this to be short-term, it would be cruel to let her think something else. As others have mentioned, there’s a risk she’s trying to get pregnant to incentivize you to stay or financially support her; you don’t know her well enough to say she wouldn’t do that.

    As long as you have both of those concerns addressed, it sounds like a good time for all involved.









  • Not in most states, and some of those that do are unlikely to charge the owner in practice.

    I’m going to guess a majority of people wouldn’t file an insurance claim. It would only make sense if

    • They have insurance covering theft of property from inside a car, which is far from universal
    • The deductible is substantially less than the value of the gun
    • The insurance company isn’t likely to raise their premium as a result





  • He then said I groomed him.

    He was trying to make himself feel better about being creepy with a kid. He’s wrong is this situation. There isn’t really any room for ambiguity.

    Neither of us were exactly saints

    You were a kid. Kids are entitled to do dumb stuff while figuring out how social interaction works, and should not feel bad about it years later. He was an adult, pretending to be a kid online and being very creepy. Depending on exactly what he said, sent, or requested, his behavior may even be criminal in some jurisdictions.



  • Reading through this story, I don’t see any mention of sexual contact, which would make it pretty hard for there to be any sexual assault. If I’m reading this right, it looks like you, as a child had a purely online relationship that was half roleplay and half real with an adult.

    If you knowingly misled him, kids do dumb things sometimes; don’t do that again. If he knowingly mislead you, he’s an asshole. If he continued having romantic or sexual chats with you knowing your real age, he’s a creep.