Tailscale would probably be easier for this. Install tailscale on the server and configure only that service available in the tailscale dashboard. I’ve used this method for ssh access to family members devices.

I’m sure you could run the same setup using headscale (tailscale self hosted), it would require a bit more setup though and dynamic dns would probably have to be working.

That’s why I also self host the scripts I’ve vetted…

I know the process. There’s also the option of attaching an ESXi datastore to a Proxmox system and importing it that way. The PCIe passthrough makes it a little more complex but not insurmountable. I’ve built the Proxmox server on another host with 10Gbe ports and am going to rebuild that way. Export the config, modify what I need to, import the sections I need and swap cables.

Once I’ve swapped hardware, I’m putting Proxmox on the current VMware host and I’ll have a backup system just in case of hardware failure.

I’m also doing some other stuff, replacing HAProxy with Caddy, maybe deploy a grafana dashboard so I can start monitoring all 60+ services on my network, and configure my network for IPv6.

I know there are a lot of recommendations here, but I can provide some insight as someone who has been looking into this heavily for the past several months.

I will start by saying that the GL.iNet Flint 2 running OpenWrt is probably going to be your best option. It meets your price point and concerns. The Flint 3 is an upgrade that just came out that could also be considered, but is currently at $190. I currently have the Flint 2 running at my mom’s house providing her network coverage. It’s a nice all in one device and I believe she’s running a 500Mbps service.

Some of the other responses here mention OPNSense. That’s what I’m running right now as a virtual machine. I’m using TP-Link Omada access points for Wi-Fi coverage. OPNSense or PFSense might be a bit much to start. They are good options, but can get rather advanced quickly and still require a method to provide Wi-Fi. I’d been looking at replacements heavily lately, but decided to stick with OPNSense (I just have to migrate it from running on VMware ESXi to Proxmox now).

Is your firewall allowing port 443 (https) traffic?