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Cake day: June 12th, 2023
  • snrkl@lemmy.sdf.orgtoADHD@lemmy.world•Tips for Anxiety Driven Work PatternsEnglish
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    29 days ago

    I feel almost 90% aligned to your story…

    Was diagnosed formally in my 40s… Described as “super high functioning” by my psychiatrist, but really just felt like I’ve white knuckled the years from age 8…

    DM me if you want to chat…

    [Edited to add]: 90% of my coping mechanism were self taught and had large similarities to what you describe.

    I have burnt out completely twice and the recovery taught me to develop better coping methods.

    My recent diagnosis has given me the final piece to better understand (retrospectively) how and why I’ve operated and grown the way I did.

    Medication is actively helping me overcome the largest remaining parts as my career has become more senior and exec function failings became more pronounced.

    Unsure if that is helpful to you, but I’m also happy to chat more thoroughly in a less open forum if you’re interested or think it might be helpful.

    It’s also OK if just knowing you’re not alone was what you were looking for…

  • snrkl@lemmy.sdf.orgtoADHD@lemmy.world•Off My Chest: I just had a very long talk with my fatherEnglish
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    2 months ago

    I’ve just had to explain to the 80yo grandmother that you can’t yell at my 19yo son because his anxiety ticks are annoying you.

    She went full send on telling him that no woman or friends would ever want to be around him unless he stopped… She got even angrier because she yelled at him to stop, and the ticking got louder and more frequent… (duh…)

    The only way I managed to get even a glimpse of consideration out of her was to leverage her pride in being a “baby whisperer” as a grandmother, and explained that yelling at an anxious ND about their ticks is like yelling at a baby to make them stop crying…

    Only then did she stop for even a moment and actually have a thought about what was happening…

    She still yells at him, but at least now we have a way to puller her back a little, as this description makes her feel terrible enough about it, that she leaves him alone for a bit out of feeling guilty…

  • snrkl@lemmy.sdf.orgtoADHD@lemmy.world•What are your strategies to not be late?English
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    3 months ago

    Similar to many others on here, I’m terrible at time estimation, so I have to literally track backwards from the time I need to be there with things I need to do along the way, so:

    Need to be there at 8am Driving takes 30mins (730) Shower 15mins (715) Tidy up and get my travel drink 20mins (0655) etc.

    Then I also usually add 15mins to get lost or find parking. (0640)

    Then I know what time to get up etc.

    (Then I usually panic that I need more buffer and add another 30mins and get up at 0610!)

    Oh… And the calendar thing. If its not in the calendar, it doesn’t happen…

  • snrkl@lemmy.sdf.orgtoADHD@lemmy.world•ADHD-friendly online jobsEnglish
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    3 months ago

    I’ve made a career out of my ADHD in a presales engineering role… (And ending up in product management).

    I did need to get the social aspects under control (mostly learning to slow down, and to learn when to shut up!), but this was all very manageable if you can take feedback and hyperfocus on putting it in action… 🤪

    I liked that I got to work on the 20% of the customers problem that was the “rocket science” bit, and we would sell consulting services to do the bits that were more like “making license plates”…

    Also, having a new audience every week meant I got to really practice and hone my presentation and soft skills which are super important.

  • snrkl@lemmy.sdf.orgtoPrivacy@lemmy.ml•When privacy expires: how I got access to tons of sensitive citizen data after buying cheap domains
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    6 months ago

    This needs a government / IEEE / domain registrar policy of some sort. Maybe it should simply be that all expired domains are put into stasis for 10 years.

    If you want to buy it and have access to it sooner, then you need to run (and pay for) a program of works to catch and proactively kill all linked accounts, and build a register of embargoed existing email addresses that must be set to bounce.

    I knew this was a problem, but wow, had no idea it was this bad…

    Because I have a firstname.lastname@popularcloudemail.domain type email, I get SOOO many people signing up for accounts with my email, forgetting that theirs had some number suffix. I get peoples phone bills, pizza receipts, Amazon orders, parking meter e-receipts, Xbox live accounts, Dropbox logins, you name it.

    I NEVER thought of what that would look like at a domain level!

  • snrkl@lemmy.sdf.orgtoADHD@lemmy.world•Anyone else feel like their ADHD was always there but got progressively worse as an adult?English
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    6 months ago

    I was also diagnosed late in life (mid 40s).

    For me it became a significant impact in two places in my life:

    1. as my roles changed and I needed more ability to handle “blank page” type work assignments as I became more senior, rather than “survive this chaos” which I’ve always excelled at (given my ability to drop something, pick up something else, then revert later.) With previous “chaos surfing” roles, my now diagnosed ADHD was actually a secret super power (seriously, I managed turn ADHD into a career). As my roles became more “take this blank page, and figure out what to do, and make it into a project to make stuff better” I fell off a performance cliff.

    2. as 1 happened, my ramp up of symptom management routines started to impact my family. (I didn’t actually realise this until my partner filled in her part of my diagnosis questionnaire. )

    My Doc basically told me I had been doing everything they want ADHD patients to do to manage the impacts of their symptoms, but my level of challenge had reached a point where medication could help me live at an effort level below the 99.99% constant I had all the time.

    He was right and it did…