Asking because I just sat through a family feud within earshot at a local coffee joint. Parents giving advice to son, who looked 30ish, all quite civil, full of the ‘can I speak for a minute’, ‘your minute is up’ and so on, with some ‘when we were your age’ and ‘you must/ will learn’ etc. Mum ended with ‘i don’t have to justify anything to you’.
My dad stopped once I got out of high school, but mum seems to chime in from time to time. I’m well into my middle age.
When should parents stop parenting and just let the kid fail/ thrive on their own? I just feel sometimes the parents are the problem, regardless of good intentions.
To be fair, some parents see their kids as an excuse to be irresponsible themselves, e.g so they don’t have to plan for retirement. I come from a religiously conservative country, and it’s common to have families with incomes of below $8k/ year having 5 or more kids. The result is a while bunch of voting adults with no functional education. Youth delinquency is a thing here.