Obviously I’m talking about two adults, I’m just wondering when it goes from okay to “a bit iffy”, either older or younger

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    They could be in a similar phase of life. I was still 17 when I started college and had a full-time job. A 20 year old could still be in high school if they were held back. This is kind of the range where you can start counting months or talking about how different school systems have different cutoff dates that can mess with things.

    I would not recommend 20 year olds and 17 year olds date in general. But it’s very possible for two people of those ages to date without being creepy or having problems.

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        Romeo and Juliet laws are fairly common. 24 states allow a 2 to 5 year age difference. AFAIK, federal law allows up to a 4-year age difference.

        The other 26 seem kinda stupid. Two kids can be in the same class and dating since 6th grade, but for 6 months in their senior year, it’s rape. How does that make sense?

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          There’s gotta be some stricter “rules”. Because 19 dating 15 would be weeeeiiiiiird. It’s always iffy because the older you get. The larger the gap is acceptable. Like 25-10 is gross AF right. But 55-40 isn’t a huge deal.

          (Saying “25-10 is gross” and getting downvoted for it is concerning on so many levels. You know who you are you fucking weirdo

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            Nobody’s downvoting your for saying 25 and 10 is gross, they’re downvoting you because you’re bringing up irrelevant nonsense. 19 and 15 is weird, but I’d rather see that 19 year old go free than make a 19 year old register as a sex offender because he slept with his 17 year old girlfriend.

            The static age gap thing is an issue. 30-20 is way worse than even 55-35, despite that being twice the gap. Half your age plus seven solves that by making the socially acceptable age gap grow with age.