Looking for:

  • no misogynists (so dbzer0 is out)
  • no libertarians, no marxist lenninsts, no tankies, no rightwingers
  • people who understand climate change is real
  • leftists including anarchists, social democrats, democratic socialists, communists, etc are great

I picked world bc I was told it would have the most activity. Since joining Lemmy I have been repeatedly harassed by men on this instance, threatened with murder and rape by users including open Nazis (this was also happening on Reddit), and permabanned for being a woman, for being a feminist, and for not breaking any rules and posting factual news sources. Would like a better instance.

Have been considering solarpunk Lemmy but willing to consider other instances, just not sure

Eta: I’m looking for a recommendation of an instance, not your personal opinion on my experiences or feelings. If you are not going to give me the name of an instance you’d recommend, don’t comment.

Here’s an article on tone policing: https://www.housing.wisc.edu/2023/12/inclusive-language-series-tone-policing-2/

• You need to recognize the indicators of tone policing, such as telling someone to calm down or to lower their tone for their message to be better received.

• Understand that various levels of emotions will often be expressed, especially during political or hot topic conversations.

• To refrain from invalidating other people’s feelings, try self-reflecting on your desire to invalidate their emotions and think about if this is due to your own discomfort.

• Tone policing must stop, especially when engaging in conversations regarding experiences with discrimination, oppression, and racism.

Here’s an article on hysteria: https://www.bps.org.uk/psychologist/hysteria-historical-mirror-misogyny-medicine

During the early 20th century, women were thought to be unfit for politics as their biology made them prone to hysteria. The suffrage movement became linked to hysteria and mental disorder, due to propaganda from the press and the government (Iglikowski-Broad, 2018). Attempts at militancy in their pursuit for equality were branded as hysteria by anti-suffrage supporters, demonstrating how use of mental health could be used to belittle the efforts of the women at the time (Thompson, 2016).

Eta 2:

This user previously said very misogynistic things to me. They are now spam posting in here, bringing up rape and sexual harassment in a conversation where it was never mentioned by me, (so why is their mind jumping to THOSE words and why are they saying them?), tagged by another user who has also taken screenshots and posted images of me in other instances, resulting in harassment of me. This is what I mean when I say it’s a boys’ club and you all don’t cultivate a culture worth being around.

One thing I didn’t want to be around was men covertly and overtly threatening rape. Why can’t that be respected?

Eta 3:

Here, since people are claiming Lemmy is a bastion of women’s rights and feminism, a list of the shit I have read with my own eyeballs:

https://lemmy.world/post/18418589/11677815

https://lemmy.world/post/18874743/11908818

https://lemmy.world/post/18874743/11897056

https://lemmy.world/post/21749661/13348174

https://lemmy.world/post/21754431/13338541

https://lemmy.world/post/21781371/13358254

https://lemmy.world/post/21781371/13357806

https://lemmy.world/post/21644699/13284141

https://lemmy.world/post/21644699/13281744

https://lemmy.world/post/21644699/13279402

https://lemmy.world/post/21644699/13279402

https://lemmy.world/post/21644699/13273356

https://lemmy.world/post/21644699/13305826

https://lemmy.world/post/21644699/13341403

https://lemmy.world/post/21644699/13343945

https://lemmy.world/post/21644699/13344248

https://lemmy.world/post/21719864/13314587

https://lemmy.world/post/21749661/13344854

https://lemmy.world/post/19955762/12467131

https://lemmy.world/post/21587225/13261160

https://lemmy.world/post/18885944/11914214

https://lemmy.world/post/18885944/11953701

https://lemmy.world/post/18885944/11948206

https://lemmy.world/post/18418589/11692679

https://lemmy.world/post/18418589/11697513

https://lemmy.world/post/18941154/11952571

https://lemmy.world/post/18941154/11955324

https://lemmy.world/post/18941154/11956772

https://lemmy.world/post/21706199/13308410

https://lemmy.world/post/15236868/9990734

https://lemmy.world/post/19163039/12046901

https://lemmy.world/post/19163039/12059630

https://lemmy.world/post/19163039/12045644

https://lemmy.world/post/18173994/11513002

https://lemmy.world/post/18537428/11752735

https://lemmy.world/post/18537428/11769838

https://lemmy.world/post/18633431/11766518

https://lemmy.world/post/18641490/11789597

https://lemmy.world/post/18752556/11824223

https://lemmy.world/post/21754485/13359659

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    No. It is because while I like Marx myself and have read Das Kapital, most online ML are:

    • heavily involved in online 5th gen warfare and infiltrated with spies and bad faith actors that actively advocate for things that harm society and erode civil rights
    • therefore the term ML and tankie tends to have been taken over by bad faith actors and it is hard to find real people in the noise
    • sometimes authoritarian and not actually communist anyway

    So while I may miss out on some cool people by excluding those spaces, if I look for OTHER leftist terms the 5th gen warfare slaves aren’t as aware of or into, then I can avoid them more and avoid their brainrot and concentrate on factual info and things that help me.

    It’s also why I call myself an abolitionist first (when abolitionism and socialism/communism are the same thing), because there’s no way the current slave empires being grown will bring attention to their slavery by astroterfing THAT term. In fact, you can often get bots to abruptly block you or delete their comments (when normally they engage constantly on everything) by asking them if they are a slave. On Instagram, TikTok, Twitter, Telegram, Tumblr, everywhere I’ve tried this line (“NPR says bots like ypu are slaves. Are you a slave? Do you need help?”) on people that I suspect are bots/slaves, I’ve gotten blocked and they deleted their comments. And I first learned bots are usually slaves in big slave networks from an NPR Planet Money episode.

    You can easily identify the 5th gen warfare terms btw by seeing repeated phrases or stances and asking those people/bots the slave question - if they block and delete, it is digital warfare of some kind.

    And as always, I can give sources, but only ask if you actually want to read them. Shit is effortful af, that’s part of why I’m leaving here for a place where people have a hopefully higher level of civil rights knowledge.

    Oh and last, I include social democrats because they tend to be educated in how the government works and in organizing, and a lot of older people ended up and social democrats due to McCarthyism. They tend to still be a little rad and worth making community with even if I really don’t agree on everything. These are your local librarians and science teachers who are very amicable to discussion etc.