For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.

On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.

From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.

Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!

    • Norah (pup/it/she)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      The solution to “the big C” is to just give the HPV vaccine to everyone, not just girls. Which is what we’re already doing in Australia.

      The “cheese” is a myth that just doesn’t happen though. Except maybe if you’re one of the grossest humans alive I guess? I’ve not showered for weeks at a time when I’m depressed and haven’t ever had that pawblem.

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        Not a myth, I’ve seen it.

        And she was not one of the grossest humans alive, but just had some hangups about “down there” that kept her from washing her vulva well.