I know opinions on this vary a lot depending on the country and culture, so I’m curious what others think. Personally, I have a 22-year-old son. I bought him a house and a car, I pay for his university tuition (his grades are high enough for a state-subsidized spot, but we feel that should go to someone more in need), and I basically support him fully. We want him to focus on his studies and enjoy this stage of his life. He will finish his dentistry degree in 2028, and then we plan to finance the opening of his private practice. We’ll stop providing financial support once he’s earning enough to live comfortably on his own. I see many parents online (especially in North America) talking about kids moving out at 18, paying rent to live at home, and covering their own bills, and it honestly shocks me. That feels unfathomable to me. I believe that as parents, we have a duty to give our children a good life since we brought them into this world.
Telling kids to move out at 18 is the equivalent of an adult forcing their senior parents in the worst senior home as soon as they hit 65
No way.
Parents owe their children a life debt, not the other way around.
One of the best things I can do for my child is not burden them later in life.
I definitely agree that parents should do their best to not be a burden to their children, but in case some unplanned circumstance happens and my kids have the ability to help, I’d be extremely disappointed if they didn’t. Love goes both ways imo.
Yeah but what I’m getting at is that I owe my son the world, he owes me nothing.
I brought him into this world, it’s my burden to bear.
I believe he’s gonna choose to be there for me if I need it but the expectation has never been ingrained in him.
He is my burden, he is his own burden, if he has kids he can be that for them.
Love goes both ways, but the responsibility ought only go one way.
I’d go a bit further and say that one is the natural consequence of the other tbh.