I know opinions on this vary a lot depending on the country and culture, so I’m curious what others think. Personally, I have a 22-year-old son. I bought him a house and a car, I pay for his university tuition (his grades are high enough for a state-subsidized spot, but we feel that should go to someone more in need), and I basically support him fully. We want him to focus on his studies and enjoy this stage of his life. He will finish his dentistry degree in 2028, and then we plan to finance the opening of his private practice. We’ll stop providing financial support once he’s earning enough to live comfortably on his own. I see many parents online (especially in North America) talking about kids moving out at 18, paying rent to live at home, and covering their own bills, and it honestly shocks me. That feels unfathomable to me. I believe that as parents, we have a duty to give our children a good life since we brought them into this world.
You are a generous and responsible parent.
All I can say is that my ex’s parents basically didn’t do shit for him, and his father was very wealthy and his mother got a positively palatial alimony check in those days, and yet he was left to his own devices for higher education and early adulthood, and it showed up in his adult habits in that he did really spiteful things regarding money because those needs weren’t met. I’m sure because you are this supportive your son will feel confident and responsible and be well grounded in life because he didn’t have to think about having his needs met, which is the ultimate wound really.