• Tonava@sopuli.xyz
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    3 days ago

    It’s one of the paradoxes of being trans. You tell you’re trans, “why are you making a big deal out of it, who cares, why is everyone pushing trans agenda these days”, but if you don’t tell, then you’re lying and deceiving others and you should always tell about it, everyone you interact with has the right to know!! There are no winning moves with hate

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      3 days ago

      both of those sounds like a grate reason to be upfront about it with a life partner

      i’d be pretty pissed if i didn’t know by the time we’re seriously talking about kids

      and if someone is that dismissive about something and talking about ‘trans agenda’ now you know they are a bigot

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        2 days ago

        In my experience, talking about kids on dates is something you need to get out as soon as other basic compatibility is established. It’s an immediate dealbreaker for many, and it’s a critical component of a future relationship. If your date doesn’t want kids and you do, you basically skip GO and are straight to “okay well guess we’re just friends now” or “nice knowing you”.

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          2 days ago

          yep the big deal breakers should all probably air out early

          vds, religion, kids, trans, politic