ah yes you want a dog
I’m all for any person practising whatever relationship style they want. What im against is using people to fulfill your needs/wants. Have fun, meet people, enjoy experiences, but please dont make people your experiments. You may enjoy “the chase”, but the long term effects on those individuals may have further impacts.
I won’t fully agree with all the other comments that OP is not a nice person for doing this. We all have our motivations, methods, and reasoning. That being said, considering the fact that other humans have feelings and desires helps to mitigate that main character syndrome.
I’ve met several women like this. They’re selfish, manipulative, hypocritical, and they LIE. Being involved with them to any extent is exhausting.
Never got one pregnant. A friend of mine married a ho like this after she baby trapped him. He wanted her to get a job so she called the police and said he hit her and touched their kid. He’s in prison now.
Don’t put your dick in crazy.
It’s like trying to gently explain to your dealer that you don’t want to hear his mixtape.
When you’re single… Be single. Date multiple people until there is mutual interest in something more.
Think about what you want out of life. Non relationship wise. Where do you want to live? Who do you want to be? What kind of things do you want to do regularly? What do you want to achieve? What does it take for you to be like happy? Be intentional. Think about what it might take for someone to complement that. What kind of temperament? What kind of activities should this person enjoy?
Life should be whatever way you see it and you need to find someone who gets that.
When you date a bunch of people, you get a sense of what it actually takes for you to be happy hanging out with someone all the time. What kind of partners take your energy away? What kind of partners give you energy?
I will say, dating IS a skill. You can learn how to do it better. Everyone is working with something different and so obviously it will be harder for some people. That’s life, but you can always learn different ways to be more effective at dating. And by trying to date a bunch, you can iron out the kinks in your strategy. The fact is it is a game, and you gotta play to learn how to play better.
It’s called a slave worshiping a mistress I think.
Yeah probably, that sounds about right, its certainly not something ive whiled away the twilight hours researching.
Make that a Kenyan girl and you have my ex.
Miss me with that bullshit. Christ that relationship damaged me.
Ew. Relationships are two-way.
Incel meme
It probably wasn’t intended to be, but a lot of the comments are from incels. Like that super real story about the guy’s friend who went to jail supposedly with no evidence against him.
What is it about meme communities that always attract misogyny?
what’s funny is that the source of this meme is a women centric page: https://www.instagram.com/p/Daokk2EjGBK/
some people will just always find a way to twist things and turn it misogynistic.
Makes sense to me, the tone is obviously pretty flippant and silly, but of course it’s going to be met with a lot of projection and “this woman ruined my life!!!”
that’s literally what i said as well. the only way you could read this as a “women bad” meme is if you have certain negative preconceptions about women / projection.
I think you nailed it tbh
the concept of a female perspective meme about libertinage being an incel meme…
the only angle i see in which it could be seen that way is if you think all women are puritanical prudes, which is misogynistic. ironic.
nah they got a point, thats the typa post id expect to see on 4chan right before they invent a new slur that no one will ever use
nah, relegating a woman’s expression of libertinage, vanity, or playful detachment to the realm of “inceldom” is deeply puritanical. it suggests that women aren’t allowed to be chaotic, selfish, or purely driven by the ego-boost of the chase. it assumes women must only want wholesome, committed love & be passive, relationship-seeking partners
being selfish and ego-boost driven is kinda bad no matter the gender
Change your perspective and imagine the meme was made by a (male) incel and you’ll get what they were getting at.
i’m imagining it. the content doesn’t change, so the meaning of the meme doesn’t change (fun without commitment). the only thing that could cause someone to label it as “incel” is, ironically, the reader’s own biases about women.
my points still stand.
Guy that’s mad because he’s been flirting with a woman and wants to get with her but she explains to him that she doesn’t wanna be with him but just wants him to want her.
It’s not how I read it initially, but hear me out…
Wants to get in a relationship but can’t? Check. Blames the woman for it? Check
Incel’s perspective checks out, imo.
again, this “interpretation” only works if the reader already has certain biases about women - specifically that women owe men a monogamous, serious, long term relationship, and wanting something casual, fun, noncommittal makes them “bad” somehow. which is the real misogynistic perspective.
and the meme doesn’t blame the woman in any way at all. the woman just doesn’t want a relationship & wants some fun without commitment. that’s it. anything else is just the reader projecting their own biases.
This comment section is rough to read. The hell is wrong with everyone? Women arent your property. If we don’t want a committed relationship thats our choice. The MEME is even espousing being upfront, honest and communicative about it.
