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    Can I be real? I’m afab and whenever I stumble into any girlposting community I absolutely can’t tell whether it’s intended to be from a trans-fem point of view or not. Like the posts in !femcelmemes@lemmy.blahaj.zone are perfectly relatable.

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      I think femcelmemes is intended to be from a general fem point of view, it’s just that the Lemmy demographics, and specifically lemmy.blahaj.zone demographics, have a lot more transfems than afab fems.

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        I have a legitimate question. Is the term “cis fems” frowned upon now or is “afab fems” just a personal preference of yours? In this context the former feels far more obvious to use to me. I’m probably overthinking it but I’d rather err on the side of caution.

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          it’s just a personal preference. I’m not quite sure if I’m actually cis so I don’t use it when talking about myself.

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          TBH I just used it because you mentioned “afab” in your comment. I’m not super hip with the lingo …

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          Regarding the „cis fems“ (no iOS, I don‘t want to type cos), cis (here) is simply the opposite of trans (across). There are reports of cis people being insulted by the term, but in my view, they have similar credibility to „I don‘t have pronouns, pronouns boy!!11!“

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            That’s my understanding too, hence why I started (over)thinking the parent commenter’s choice of words. Thanks for confirming!

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          Do you congratulate for cake day on Lemmy? If so: Happy cake day! Otherwise, please disregard this message.

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            No idea if we do it here, I don’t see it much. Thank you nonetheless! I didn’t even realize it’s today.