I know this is a thing on Reddit where idiot kids will circumvent ToS and subreddit rules by deleting their commment because it remains as a notification, while removing any reportable trace, but that’s not how Lenny works. Deleted comments show that a person commented but does not show they comment.

So, why is this so common?

(If this isn’t the place to ask, my apologies. I just don’t know what the right pace to ask it is if this isn’t the one. Also. I’m blocking all the clowns that think it’s funny to comment and delete.)

  • Today@lemmy.world
    43·
    16 天前

    Sometimes mine spins and then posts twice. Sometimes i realize that I’m replying to the wrong comment. Sometimes the typos and autocowrongs are so bad that it’s unintelligible. Sometimes the written words don’t come across the way i intended. 🤷

    • Pratai@piefed.caOPEnglish
      32·
      16 天前

      I get that. But I think the frequency of it lends to it being more than just that. It happens a lot.

      • wieson@feddit.org
        82·
        16 天前

        Do let me be a bit provocative here: why did you pose the question if you don’t accept the answers?

        • Pratai@piefed.caOPEnglish
          2·
          16 天前

          How have I not accepted the answers? There’s been plenty of good responses, and some kids that think they’re funny. What in your opinion, have I not accepted.

          • wieson@feddit.org
            5·
            15 天前

            I read under 3 replies, that you don’t think they explain the frequency.
            But they’re the answers given by most and also the one that I would give. Maybe they do explain the frequency. Maybe our communities here are just more full of self doubt or self reflection than other websites.

  • Mongostein@lemmy.ca
    40·
    15 天前

    I’ve done it because I’ve realized I misread something in the comment I replied to, making myself look stupid 🤷‍♂️

    • Pratai@piefed.caOPEnglish
      9·
      16 天前

      Okay that a fair reason and makes things make more sense. I appreciate the response!

    • WindyRebel@lemmy.world
      8·
      15 天前

      I generally strike it all out, add an edit line, explain that I misread something, and apologize.

      That’s just who I am though. I’m not saying you should do it, but I’m suggesting an alternate action. I’d rather be honest that I fucked up than hide it because it shows growth, and I also hope that it encourages other to realize it’s ok to make a mistake and reflect.

  • chunes@lemmy.world
    20·
    16 天前

    because i realize i don’t want my inbox to be full of people mad at me.

    Protip for lemmy devs: if there was a ‘disable inbox replies’ button I wouldn’t do this.

    • iatenine@piefed.socialEnglish
      4·
      15 天前

      I think enduring this now and then is healthy if you meant what you said

      You gotta balance standing your ground when your stance is unpopular with understanding the mindset of others

      Of course block anybody badgering you to the point of harassment

  • Enkrod@feddit.org
    18·
    15 天前

    Sometimes my first reaction to shit-takes is anger. I usually don’t want that to be my comment. I’m trying to stay empathetic and have a constructive discussion, because I do not want Lemmy to become like Reddit and I think empathy and arguing in good faith is what makes the difference.

    So I’m usually only letting the anger out when my opposite is arguing in bad faith.

  • dohpaz42@lemmy.worldEnglish
    17·
    16 天前

    I typically stick with what I say, for better or for worse. But I have deleted maybe two comments in the past; usually because I recognized how poorly I reacted and felt the person didn’t deserve my stupidity.

    • Pratai@piefed.caOPEnglish
      61·
      16 天前

      Same. I believe people should have the strength of conviction to stand by their opinions. I’ve said shit that probably should be removed, and some of it has, but I felt it needed to be said. It’s the risk one takes when using social media.

  • Duchess@piefed.linenoise.vipEnglish
    15·
    16 天前

    My top two reasons are realizing I posted somewhere I maybe shouldn’t and realizing I shared personal identifying information. A bit too late for the latter once it’s out there but you can’t win ‘em all 🤷🏼‍♀️

    The other day someone posted an interesting boundary map of their farthest travels and I thought it was a fun idea, made my own and uploaded it and realized after posting that a Europe comm might not want Americans posting so I deleted it for example.

  • GreenKnight23@lemmy.world
    12·
    16 天前

    I did it because trump won a second term and made some pretty threatening comments about people doing/saying the things I said. so I got rid of them.

    that said, I stopped for two reasons;

    1. it’s a pita and my comments are federated to other instances anyway
    2. fuck him
  • DigDoug@lemmy.worldEnglish
    121·
    16 天前

    Sometimes it’s because I’ve said something stupid or that, in hindsight, comes off as stupid.

    Usually it’s because my comment has sparked an argument that I lose interest in continuing.

    • abbadon420@sh.itjust.works
      12·
      16 天前

      Oh no, once there’s an argument, you can’t delete the comment anymore. You’ve created something and it has taken root, you must own it. You don’t abort a child after it has been born, went to school, got a degree, married and had kids of its own, do you?

    • Pratai@piefed.caOPEnglish
      2·
      16 天前

      That’s a fair point. However, most of the time, it’s a comment made and deleted within minutes.