Hi everyone!
I am F21. I have a boyfriend (M20). We are in relationship approximately 1 month (before that we was best friends for 7 or even more years).
We have a lot in common an I really love him (and as I know he too).
We started dating as I accidentally saw my photo on his laptop (I already liked him). After asking him what was that he told me that he liked me for a long time and was afraid to tell me that.
As our personalities - we are typical “otaku” (anime nerds), so we always had hanged out together in the past.
Now everything fine, I really like him, but I am bothered about him being trembling every single time I am close. I know for sure that I am the only one he likes to talk (we are both extremely quiet personalities) and we are together 99% of time. And this happens only if I take his hand or hug him.
I don’t want to ask him about this because I afraid he will get ashamed of this.
Should I worry?
If it happens specifically when you hold his hand or hug him, it could be because he’s neurodivergent in a way that makes those kinds of physical contact more difficult. As others have said, you can just talk to him about it. Just be open to whatever he says. Maybe he’ll say “I want to hold your hand but every time I do it’s really overwhelming for me”. You’ll have to accept him as he is if you want the relationship to succeed.