Is there a way to filter YT searches for that?

Hmmm, good point.

I love the little bit of Fridge Brilliance embedded in that line. Why would the large women get the most snu snu? Because they made the decision - the large women are probably the ones in charge of the social pecking order. And it makes perfect sense that the largest women of Amazonia are in charge. Their physical strength means they can literally push others around, and in a society of humanoids that’s become as giant as they are, it’s likely that the largest women have been prioritized for mating rights as well.

In this same light, it makes sense that Zapp, the largest of the three, is snu snu’d by the large women, while skinny Fry gets the petite women. The large women have the best chances of having large offspring by snu snuing Zapp. The petite women probably have less say than the rest, so they’re given the scrawny guy. Everybody wants Kif, but the large women still demand more snu snu than the rest, so they get him twice.

Edit to add: a direct link to the Futurama page on Fridge Brilliance, simply because it’s much more fun than doomscrolling and I figured others might enjoy it, too. The thing I said isn’t on there, but the page does offer this:

In “Amazon Women in the Mood”, the ruler of an all-female society describes Kif as being the most attractive of all the men. At first, it just seemed like a humorous joke, as Kif is a goofy-looking alien, and not exactly the epitome of masculinity. But this panel from the comics gives a decent explanation as to why the women of Amazonia were so charmed by Kif. Being effeminate and girlish are traits that are typically seen as undesirable in men on Earth but would definitely be desirable traits in a society populated entirely by women.

I saw that part first and immediately thought, “Wow, yes, it must be annoying for ads for jewelry to be embedded in your work.” Then I saw the sleep apnea garbage. Until reading the additional info, I was ready to ask, “Which ad?” The way it’s worded sounds like sponsored content.

Also, all the people using ad blockers must also be blocking each other’s comments. Because hot damn, there’s a lot of people saying the same thing. I think OP gets the message, y’all.

Damn, you’re both lucky things didn’t go worse. “I told them it was too dangerous, then I left them alone anyway, and they died from their injuries” would be a hell of a thing to have on one’s conscience, let alone one thing to admit on the defendant’s stand.

I mean, you’re (presumably) an adult who can take responsibility for your own actions, but if she was truly concerned for your safety, abandoning you makes no sense. No matter how skilled my partner might be, I’d be waiting at the edge watching like a hawk, not saying anything, just making sure their stunt didn’t end the way I feared it would. There’s plenty of time for arguments about it when we’re both back on solid ground. Literally turning away and walking off at the height of a dangerous act while alone in nature doesn’t say “I’m concerned about your safety” as much as it says “I’m emotionally-immature and can’t prioritize your actual well-being above my personal feelings.”

Glad to hear she’s an ex.

Other commenters have made really good points (like the one about us self-selecting to be here after leaving more toxic social media, or the one about engagement algorithms on Reddit encouraging hostility.)

As a smaller site, each of us holds more sway in building what this community is. There are definitely people here that see that and want to continue fostering a more positive experience. A lot of users here have interests in science, especially computer science, and a lot of users come from around the world. Both of these create a space that encourages rationality more than US-based popular social media (like Reddit.) Logical fallacies are called out for what they are, and plenty of people here are of the mindset that pointless drama isn’t worth engaging with. It’s not absolute, no, but compared to Reddit? It’s like another planet.

I definitely feel the vibe of old school computer forums. Small communities where people remember each other’s usernames and backstories encourage us to find common ground. Reddit’s near-anonymity has the downsides of any large-scale online anonymity - people can get mean because they don’t recognize the humanity of whoever’s on the other end of the argument. Here, we are still somewhat anonymous, but you run across some of the same names over and again. Like a small town where people all know each other, you end up more accountable for your shit-stirring because you’ll encounter the same people more frequently.

Oh, and one last point, the average age here is higher than Reddit. IIRC we’re mostly in our 30s. Age and maturity may hold sway in our behavior here as well.

I don’t know how common it is today, but I know when I was growing up there was a ton of pressure on us to know what we wanted to do forever by the time we were in high school. It was so bad that I went into a depressive shut-down, with weeks of barely eating or talking to anyone. Adults would try to reassure me with, “Nobody knows what they want to do by your age,” yet simultaneously I was told, “You need to go to college so you don’t flip burgers forever.” College comes along with needing to declare a major, which means deciding what you want to focus on despite being so young. So I don’t need to know, but I do need to know? Very, very confusing.

The school system has been failing for a long time. I saw the writing on the wall in the early 00s and wanted nothing to do with a system that seemed to be more about extracting money and wasting time than anything else. Thankfully, like you, I love learning! I never stopped picking up skills and challenging my mind, and in a world of emergent AI it’s become more important than ever to keep exercising one’s brain.

In the end, I’d say you’re probably less alone than you feel. A lot of people who seem confident about what they plan to do are either doing what they’re told, or taking on a “fake it til you make it” mentality. Check back on them in ten years and see how many of them actually stuck to their plan - it will be surprising. A lot changes in one’s 20s. Friends drift apart (physically and psychologically) as they begin their independent journey through life.

I get the impression that I don’t need to tell you not to fall for social media where people only show their best selves, but it bears noting. Comparing one’s self to others is a surefire way to make one feel bad about themselves, and social media exacerbates that trend. As you see friends going on and doing things, try to remember the old phrase, “The grass is always greener on the other side.” Some of them are hiding their struggles, and may secretly envy you and your decisions, even if they don’t tell you so.

Anyway, just keep up learning topics that interest you. The idea of a “dream job” is propaganda, and by admitting it doesn’t exist for you, you help show it for the bullshit idea it is. Not everyone dreams of working. Not everyone should dream of working. There’s nothing wrong with finding a job that supports you (which I do recommend, as you really never know what can happen) while finding meaning and fulfillment from things that don’t make you money.

That’s so bad for a child’s development. A computer can’t guide a kid’s hand to practice fine motor skills. It can’t impart social skills to help kids interact with each other. It can’t help kids revolve conflicts with each other, or handle behaviors that require a human touch. Imagine a couple kids fighting because they can’t share - what’s a computer gonna do? A kid can just ignore its instructions. What’s to stop a kid from physically attacking a robo-nanny or whatever fresh hell gets developed in this field?

I work with kids with difficult behaviors. There are ethical boundaries we need to be aware of. Will a robo-nanny be imparted with those rules? How accountable would it be if it did something ethically questionable? What will it be trained on - actual knowledge of children’s psychology (in which case, using a robot at all should be discounted right off, as children thrive on human interaction)? Or will it be trained on what parents/teachers have already been doing, which would inevitably result in being trained on outdated techniques that don’t follow updates in science? If a robot thinks spanking, isolation, or withholding food is okay, that’d be extremely troubling. There’s so much that could go wrong, and knowing this tech isn’t being designed with ethics in mind makes this whole endeavor terrifying.

Are parents going to be comfortable with their kids being alone in a room without an adult? A group of kids could simply band together to lock the robot in a closet or something and let chaos reign. They could figure out how to power it down, or throw things at it until it stops functioning. A kid having a tantrum can be a powerful force, potentially injuring other children in the act, and I highly doubt a robot alone could handle that situation effectively. Where I work it can take a team of adults with blocking pads, and coordination with even more adults to clear other students from the area. Sometimes those other kids are playing games and don’t want to leave, and it takes a trusted adult to convince them that yeah, no, we need to move now. Which brings us to the relationship the teachers have with the students, and how it is crucial to gaining what’s called “instructional control,” which basically means, “this kid will listen to your instructions.” Can a robot foster that? Do we want a robot to be able to foster that? I don’t like the idea of kids personifying machines to that extent, and we’re quickly learning how damaging (literally, it can cause brain damage) that can be for young minds.

I could go on and on, but suffice to say this whole topic is an ethical clusterfuck.

I technically have a LinkedIn account, but haven’t so much as visited it in nearly a decade. Everything on it is long out of date, save for my name. The listed home town and job history aren’t relevant to where I am and what I do today.

Despite that, I got a new job last year. Like you, I used a typical job-finding site… sort of. I searched on there, but didn’t find the job I have - rather, a recruiter for this company reached out to me. Not sure if that info is good news or bad news for you, but it worked out for me, even without an active LinkedIn page.

No person can think so much about all their decisions to spend money.

Aw, I wish I didn’t need to budget every cent, but with the small amount of pocket change I’ve got to buy things, being careful with it becomes normal. Most of the food I buy is straight up raw vegetables, or store brand frozen/canned items (which are bought because they’re cheapest. Or is “advertisement” so broad of a term that it applies to ordinary price tags?) Clothing is whatever’s affordable, fits, and looks and feels good enough. When you’re teetering on the edge of homelessness (and have experienced it three times), survival becomes your main priority. Penny pinching is unavoidable. Frivolous spending becomes a pipe dream.

Even if ads are still sneaking info into my brain, I’m hard-pressed to think of any purchases I’ve made where brand names factor in. I’m really trying to think of something here, but even the less common things I’ve spent money on were chosen through experience (like a game I played with a friend, then decided I wanted a copy of) or research (like when I bought a solar generator last year. I’d never even heard of the company before I sought it out for myself.)

I guess a local Chinese food flyer put on a doorknob counts as advertising that works, though even then if they don’t have decent veg options and prices, it’s going to be a no-go. So sure, that’s your “gotcha.” Chinese food flyers. All the money spent on ads around the world, and the only thing I can recall purchasing based on it took some person taking a walk and hanging menus on doors.

I get it, ads are designed to manipulate, to put ideas into people’s heads as a latent reminder, like a virus waiting for the right moment to strike. Maybe some day if I actually make enough money to not have to be extraordinarily careful with it, more of them might get a chance to work. Who knows. Right now, price is the biggest pain point, overriding brand recognition. With the way things are going, I don’t expect that to change any time soon.

Perhaps the best advertisement would be if a company decided to lobby for higher wages - that’d definitely make a company name stick in my head in a positive way, and would provide me the opportunity to spend money on them, to boot!

Oh, how about the ads for that insurance company that’s just for military families? Way to bark up the wrong tree. Even if the point is to subtly convince me to join the United States military, that’s still hilariously off-target. Never. gonna. happen.

And nowdays you just know their $300 “service” is going to be “run it through an LLM.”

You might think you cannot afford to buy most things advertised, but the numbers don’t lie. They’ll get you eventually. Even if it’s just $3.

Do you really believe that? $3 isn’t going to get me the things I see ads for that I’d actually be tempted by. As to things $3 or below, I’m never shopping at the craft store that hates gay people. I’m never buying from the top fast food places either. These are things I already made decisions on for moral reasons and I’ve never swayed on in all my years, so why on Earth would an ad make a difference?

I don’t think advertisers (or those that think any old ad is bound to be effective) consider that there are some of us who make decisions based on our own criteria. I recognize that I’m not like most people, but to say that such ads are still going to “get [me] eventually” is nonsense.

Not having money never really stopped people from spending it anyhow.

Maybe for some, but that’s again not something that applies to everyone. I don’t even have a credit card. I’ve had nearly 20 years of adulthood in which to get one, have bought/leased cars and rented apartments without a problem (despite no card, paying off student loans means my credit score is pretty good), and I prefer the security of only spending money I’ve already got. Advertisers can have fun trying to squeeze blood money from a stone.

Especially when it’s for vacation spots, booking sites, or luxury cars. Keep spending that money for no return, guys, because absolutely none of that is happening. (I want to say “not happening anytime soon,” but who am I kidding? I’m already in my upper 30s and I can’t fathom making that kind of money.)

Same boat. I work with small kids, oblivious to politics, full of hope for the future because that’s how they should feel. I clock in and lose myself in their version of the world for 8 hours a day. It’s no wonder why I’m actually happier at work than at home these days.

I find myself scrolling here less because of all the doomerism and bad news. It’s just exhausting to be bombarded with it all day.

My favorite part is the bird sitting right underneath it.

I’m convinced anyone who says that either has a dulled sense of taste, or is confusing the texture for flavor. I could see arguing that they feel similar, since they definitely both have a soft texture. But in my experience, they absolutely do not taste the same. Avocado has a flavor, it’s delicate but it’s there. Clean penis just tastes like any other clean skin.

But not all clean skin is as smooth as a penis head. Matching texture for texture makes more sense.

… I’m gonna regret having this in my comment history, aren’t I?

I did the same with a mango. In public.

This is why I’m practically addicted to avocado sushi rolls.