I’m talking about editing a backlog, like if you record hours upon hours of content, then spend weeks editing them. Think of those hour-long video essays with animations and stuff. If you live alone and stocked up on groceries, you could easily go quite a while without actually having to leave the house.
Again, a pretty specific scenario, but not exactly hard. Not even that farfetched for some niche video essay creator.
I think it would be an unusual occurrence, but not really “hard”. Imagine a YouTuber who edits their own videos. If they live alone and spend an extended period of time editing their backlog, they might not talk at all and only hear recordings.
I can see that, but you can always focus on meeting in person. Just use tech to vaguely call meetings.
Locally
Civilization is basically just bureaucracy integrated over population. Some people figure out how to game the system via the chasm of abstraction between; that’s a function of any sufficiently complex system, look at the speed running community
But ultimately, civilization is just people. All the bureaucracy placed on top of it is just a collection of systems made by people to coordinate themselves. A lot of the dark theatrics are the result of the population becoming so vast that even at the lowest levels, the bureaucracy is distant and abstract. That abstraction alienates people from one another, so they only really know how to interact through the lens of that bureaucracy
The optimism is that you can engage your community. You can meet your neighbors, learn their trades and share yours, start a group chat. You can organize barter networks, childcare rotations, handyman services, mutual aid.
You can join local political groups. Start local political groups. Go to protests and meet people in neighboring areas. Network.
You can promote candidates for local office, and encourage others in your network to do so. You can run for local office, and encourage others in your network to do so. We’ve seen what the other side is offering so far as administrative competence, you think you’re worse?
Go to local events. Talk to your neighbors. Organize with your neighbors. The big system is very top down in its perspective, but it’s really ultimately dependent on the composite people. You can organize the people from the bottom up, and get your friends in nearby neighborhoods to do the same.
If all the neighborhoods are organized, bloodless revolution slides quite comfortably into the realm of plausible futures.
Certainly, but it’s the only real starting place
Google “ferengi rule 34”
That’s the entire point of citation, repeatable experiment, and peer review. The only way we can ever touch at reliability is cross-referential consensus.
Y’know, if it had ham in it, it’s closer to a British carbonara
Bookmark the stuff that warrants a bookmark.
Close the stuff I’m not as interested in as I thought I’d be.
Group remaining tabs by subject (books, articles, products, etc. I have a system).
Close redundant tabs in groups.
The theory I’ve read is that lots of people are into a bit of the taboo/forbidden partner aspect of an attraction they have toward a real person in their life: their neighbor, platonic friend, co-worker, etc. But most of these connections don’t really feel all that taboo when it’s someone else, so the “step-” angle is just a generic stand in that carries the forbidden aspect without going too far.
Look into the kabbalistic concept of tzimtzum, it’s an interesting take.
Y’know, if anywhere was going to have an ATM machine, it would probably be Costco
Maybe not everything, there were a few less-than-greats in his catalogue. It’s been a while, but I can’t imagine The Pebble and the Penguin or A Troll in Central Park being particularly good as an adult.
Eh, you can circle back through nihilism into absurdism, and wind up in a place close enough to self-confidence to actually turn into it eventually.
Ask me how I know.
That would be included prominently in the “sweeping socialist reform”. Absolutely a high priority, but negligible odds of success under the current composition.
Priority one is achieving a Congress that will pass RCV.
They still do good things sometimes, they generally do fewer and less bad things. Definitely need to be entirely reformed, but practically that’s a future us problem.
Priority one is dismantling the other party. Blue collar Americans love socialism when you don’t call it that. Start a “right wing” party that’s just leftism wrapped up in Jesus and 'Murica. Split the right, let the neo-libs stabilize things for a couple cycles while the 'Murica party siphons the working class from Republicans. Then, after the Republican party is dead, hard shift on the left from Democrat to 'Murica, massive mandate, start passing sweeping socialist reform.
I think the main point is “the desire and the power”. There are a few with desire, but without numbers they don’t have the power. The more people with desire we can get into seats, the more power they’ll have, collectively, to do something.
To be fair, she did explicitly refer to the bimbo aesthetic. That’s not just dressing “like a woman”, it’s a pretty objectively sexualized aesthetic. Not that what you’re saying doesn’t also happen.
Based on the fact that you came to Lemmy for relationship advice, I’m gonna go ahead and assume you’re a huge dork. Fear not, I was once also a huge dork. I still am, but now I’m a kinda hot dork with a hot dork wife. I’ll tell you how I did it.
I’ll break this up into a few sections:
-1. Be Attractive
Rule 1 & 2 reign supreme. Even that quiet nerd you have your eye on wants a relatively attractive partner.
First, basic hygiene. I don’t know if this is an issue for you, but it was for me. Fresh breath, clean hair, and no detectable BO go a long way.
Second, exercise. Compound lifts and cardio. You’ll build discipline, a more attractive physique, and stamina for the consequences of being in a relationship.
Third, style. T-shirts and flip flops aren’t very attractive. Invest in a couple nice button downs, a nice pair of jeans, and shoes that make you look like a grown up. Go to your barber and have an honest conversation about hairstyles that suit you.
-2. Be Sociable
First, learn how to talk to people. It’s a cliche, but Carnegie’s HtWFaIP is a great starting place if you have difficultly maintaining small talk. But the best thing you can do, ultimately, is getting low stakes practice talking to people. Chit chat with the cashier, compliment random strangers on shirts you like, go to bars and strike up conversations. Conversation is a skill even introverts can learn.
Second, learn how to be rejected gracefully. Not every conversation is going to pan out. Understand that a failed conversation is not the end of the world, and appreciate it for the brief social practice. Not everyone is going to vibe with you, and that’s okay. But if you never put yourself out there, you’ll never find the ones that do. Learn to be okay with striking out, or fizzling.
Third, try to be interesting. Learn about things that other people find interesting. You can go a long, long way just asking people questions and letting them talk, but knowing a little about the topic they’re taking about makes for better questions.
-3. Get Out There
Other people have touched on social hobbies, but it bears repeating. There’s not really a better way to find a partner than going to gatherings of people with similar interests. That’s where all the people who like the same stuff as you are.
Plus, the more you get out there, the better you’ll get at communicating.
It took me years to find my wife, but the journey developed me as a person, and I had a surprising amount of fun in the process.
I feel like usually when I hear about some experiment that changes our perception, the time to adapt is typically about 2 weeks, but that number is almost entirely vibes-based.