they/them

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Cake day: 2023年6月10日

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  • Woman here in my mid 30s. I went through a few rough relationships, and in the last longterm one shifted my mindset from “of course I’ll have kids” to “I won’t put my body through that”

    Since leaving that relationship, being in and out of therapy, and meeting someone that made me feel love in a way I didn’t think was possible, I’ve changed my mind back. I’d be fine with it if it never happened, but there’s something incredibly romantic about it to me. Being in such a vulnerable state where I’d need help but be supported. Putting my body through that, then having a common goal in raising them as a team.


  • I want to preempt this by apologizing if you are a victim yourself, or at least say I don’t speak for all victims. That said, threatening violence - unless as immediate defense - is not moral within my view. I’ve been raped and had loved ones violently murdered. I would not wish pain on those responsible. I want them to understand and grow as people. Maybe it will never happen, and I can accept that. I can’t accept loosening my moral standards and sinking to their level.

    Sequestering them from society is more preferable. Requiring therapy. Community service.

    I’ve been in therapy off and on for years. One piece of advice a therapist gave me that I’ll never forget is to never stop being an idealist.








  • Jokes aside, there have been cultures where women went into labor and would deliver by themselves away from the tribe. It’s been a while since I read about it, but iirc if she returned without the newborn is was either unacknowledged or at minimum just accepted as her decision. Imagine having a still birth or a child with extreme physical deficiencies prior to modern medicine. I do remember thinking when I read it that it surely resulted in women not returning, too, because childbirth can be risky even with a team of professionals.

    Also wet nurses have been a thing, and the practices with that range from understandable to horrific - think wives of slave owners not wanting to breast feed, so they force a slave that’s given birth recently take on the duty, usually as a priority over their own child. Course, there’s always been women who couldn’t produce milk, so it has been done altruistically, too




  • I’ve slept since I watched and am not great with tech, but iirc the link with the affiliate code when clicked takes you to the site. Then honey has a pop up that, when clicked, replaces the link with their own, swiping the commission. Hope that makes sense - most people likely would not catch it. The Linus tech tips was used as an example of even a tech channel with lots of employees taking quite a while to notice themselves, and even when they did, it wasn’t quite conclusive for some reason?

    Another thing the video touched on is that honey would claim to search for coupons but often opt to show what the partnered companies want. So, could be there’s a coupon for 50% but they only show 10%.