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  • myusernameis@lemmy.catoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Would you say my conservative dad has at least revatively gotten the point?
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    8 个月前

    Hi, Happy to try and answer, though with the caveat that this is just from my own experience.

    1. Disphoria happens on a social, mental, and physical level. For some the social hits strongest, basically they feel like their true gender internally and would like to act and be treated in a way that matches the social contruct of their true gender rather than their AAB gender, but they may care less or not at all about the physical appearance. Transmedicalism denies that their experience is very much the trans experience. For some, like me, my lifelong dismorohia (e.g. eat disorder, body shame) meant that my physical disphoria only presented after I found queer communities will to accept me as trans while I still looked very cis. To put it in TLDR terms, no woman should have to shave her legs to be a woman (and trans women are women). Which leads me to #2.

    2. Transitioning can take a long time. I am now addressing my physical disphoria, but the time and money required is significant. Transmedicalism (perhaps unintentionally) creates hierarchies: passing > surgeries > hormones etc. Which can be emotionally destroying along the way, and even more for a late-bloomer like me, who may never pass. And so rejecting that helps change the standard for me, makes sure every step I take is for me which leads to the last point.

    3. NB and trans NB people exist. Specifically why what OPs dad said is still troubling, it still forces a binary when gender is more of a 4d spectrum.

    TL;DR transmedicalism gatekeeps a lot of people out, when we all have far more in common.

    Again, not the gospel, just my take. Thanks for asking. ❤️

  • myusernameis@lemmy.catoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•Fellow Americans, how do you deal with the day to day knowing this capitalist hellhole system is absolutely rigged against us?
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    10 个月前

    So I went through a very dark place a few years back. Anxiety, depression and PTSD led me to the conclusion that “life is hard and always will be and that in the whole of human history we are all insignificant”.

    But with the help of a great therapist (and some meds) I was able to append “so I might as well have fun”.

    So I try to find joy wherever I can. So yes to doing things, fight my cynical side, make friends, dress weird, dance, party, be my (weird fun happy) self, allocate zero fucks to the haters and all to love to the people that matter.

    I still fight the system where I can, but mostly by trying to make other’s lives happier. Let the billionaires be rich miserable assholes, we’re too busy dancing slutty to care.