For me, the best advice I ever heard was “Being nice isn’t a personality, it’s literally the bare minimum”.

I always thought of myself as the “Nice Guy”, who just couldn’t ever find a girl to be with me. I didn’t understand it, I was funny, I was nice to girls, I did things like read books and watch intellectual movies, and so many stereotypes. I was single for most of high school and college and all the while I thought this.

It got worse with message boards/Reddit, where I had other people convincing me that yeah, I’m right, it’s the women who are wrong. They don’t want nice guys anymore, they want bad guys, they don’t know what is best for them. This caused resentment and anger in me.

In college I was lucky enough to meet some new friends that brought me out of this mindset, who sternly but lovingly told me that hey, maybe I wasn’t actually as nice as I thought I was. Maybe thinking that women only want bad guys and being upset no one wanted to date me was much more obvious then I let on, and the biggest gut punch that I think most nice guys need to here: Everyone knows you’re not being nice, you’re trying to manipulate them. Looking back, yeah I was, I was trying to be nice so they would want to be with me, not because I wanted to be nice.

After that I worked on myself. Not the cliche hit the gym or anything, but just worked on being more pleasant to be around. Being more self aware. My sarcasm is funny - to people who I know get it and understand I’m being sarcastic, otherwise they probably think I’m an asshole. Just be nice to people and don’t expect anything, just be a good person. Work on my personality, nice isn’t a personality, build hobbies and things to talk about, and show interest in other people’s hobbies - genuinely.

Which worked. By being less self absorbed and focused on getting a girlfriend, I became someone who was attractive, and not because I was buff or attractive physically, but because I was not exhausting to be around. I came out the other side a better person, and I hope others can too. Looking inward and having those hard conversations with yourself are not fun, but that’s life. Nothing in life comes easy, and working on yourself emotionally is one of the hardest, but also rewarding things you can do.

Honestly I’m surprised they’re still thinking about that. The last major release they had was RDR2 in 2018. That was 7 years ago now. In that time not only have handhelds and more PC devices exploded but also PCs as a whole thanks to COVID. It’s just more popular than it ever was. If they go forward with console only they better have a massive kickback from Sony now that Xbox isn’t playing as much, otherwise they’re missing out on tons of sales.

Edit: Actually writing that out, I bet the PC port is planned a year behind and always was, but GTA 6 was planned years ago before the boom. I wonder if we’ll see RDR3’s PC come at the same time.

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They said they were open to it but they had zero priority of doing it themselves, and essentially “submit a PR if you want it”. A shame really, their interface is great, and such an easy setup. If they implemented either xmpp or matrix I would switch immediately. All of my friends want a discord clone that “just” works, but no one wants to go to this server for this group and then login to that server for that group. They want a single-pane interface like what discord offers.

Shortsighted to not implement that IMO.

Problem isn’t that, since the handheld is just running windows it can only run games with a PC release. If the game was never ported to PC they currently have no way to play it. They really thought through the whole release real well.

Yeah I would assume if anything they would have helped them bring federation

Yeah that seems like the perfect sort of thing to give away as a free benefit to people, but then charge big healthcare for the overall datasets to do analysis on. Fully anonymized of course. If I, someone who actually cared about privacy, was going to do it that’d be how.

I can kind of see this as a positive, where tracking health is useful…

But I’d have to let go of literally every corporation who has tried to be altruistic and then burned me later. 150 a year (let’s be real too, per user probably), is too much for a monitoring service like this. Not to mention, you notice blood in your stools. Unless you just ignore weird feelings and just never turn around when flushing you’re gonna notice. You don’t need a service for that, just go to the doc immediately.

Oh neat, I’ll have to swap searx to use it!

Finally someone asking the real questions

Yeah yeah yeah but ignoring that… Would you?

I don’t know what else to say…

You sure? You wrote a novel based on a couple of sentences my dude.

Algorithm is not a dirty word. Any sorting or filtering is an algorithm. Just because you don’t like something doesn’t mean we need to kill it off, just don’t use them.

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We’re already in the dystopia

This one is pretty clear. Tencent is saying that Sony is trying to copyright an entire genre, like sci fi.

In reality it’s more like if Sony made Star wars, and tencent made the star of death with the jidoos with lasersabres. Tencent is just trying to say “how dare you trying to copyright sci fi!”

Once business/product start dipping their hands into the How, “I know how to design this” you know you’re cooked on the team. That’s what got me too, some manager who had probably 6 months of coding experience and then went into management was trying to tell me with 12 years of experience how I should architect. They’ll constantly lie to you convincing you that you’re the wrong one, when you have all of that experience

I feel you, and I’ve passed over on re-up as well and know the sting. It’s not as bad as getting fired, but there’s still a feeling of rejection there.

Gone but not forgotten :(

With AI you can fake engagement, which convinces shareholders you are much valuable. Share price go up, free money