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Cake day: June 19th, 2023

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  • Heck yeah!

    A very good friend gifted me one when he upgraded to the oled model, and it totally brought back my love of gaming. I hadn’t really been able to because of health issues, what with not being able to stay at my desk very long.

    But this sucker? It’s running everything I’ve thrown at it so far. Baldur’s gate 3, and 2. Genshin. Stuff like stardew valley.

    The worst one to get set up was genshin because they insist on having their own launcher. Makes updates a pain in the ass. Luckily, I don’t play it often, so I don’t care much lol.

    I can be in bed, on the couch, even in the john if I want to, and enjoy the hell out of the experience. Worst case, I might have to fiddle with settings if the game doesn’t have native controller support, or piddle with stuff like heroic or lutris if a game is pissy installing.



  • Eh, short term it’s no big deal. Teeth are durable as hell and won’t get fucked up by anything that minor if it’s a rare thing. But, the more you do it, the more damage accumulates over time. A few times a year over decades? Never gonna notice it.

    A few times a month, and it’ll be a decade or two before it would be a problem.

    A few times a week, and you’d better have dental coverage and/or good income, because you’re looking at a few years before it starts showing up as carries. Less if circumstances are bad, or you didn’t start out with very good teeth.

    There’s also the fact that keeping in the habit of brushing after eating stays a habit better if you don’t deviate from it without an important reason. In my mind, if you’re awake enough to eat, you’re awake enough to brush afterward. If you aren’t awake enough to brush, then you probably shouldn’t be eating either. Fucks with digestion and metabolism. It’s better to just stay on track and skip the snack, if you dig me.

    But nah, if it’s a rare thing, you’ll take more damage from a soda than a single night skipping brushing after a midnight nosh. It’s all about the acids.

    Now, if you can’t be bothered to at least swish out with some water, I’d say you’ve got worse things to worry about because you can do that on your way back to bed, swallow it and take zero extra effort beyond the mouthful of water. If your energy is that low, or there’s some other impediment involved, focus on that.




  • Yeah, I’d be looking for someone else too. I don’t believe in being a slave to a clock, but he’s just not matching your needs and expectations even when he’s there, so it just isn’t a good pairing. A trainer and client have to be on the same page for them to be able to really guide you.

    Sorry you’re working so hard and not being supported right. There’s plenty of room for a relaxed trainer, but that’s not what you need to meet your goals. Sucky position to be in. If it wasn’t prepaid, I’d say just walk entirely since it’s a recurring issue.

    Good thing is that trainers tend to have a fairly high turnover rate, so he may end up not being there long.


  • IDGAF about five minutes in most circumstances. There’s just too much shit that matters way more.

    If it was something that was a dealbreaker metrics because it fucked other things up for me, I’d want to know what the deal was, communicate that my needs weren’t being met, and decide to stay a member/customer based on that, but it’s not something that would bother me.

    I refuse to be a fucking slave to the clock on my phone, and wouldn’t insist anyone else be either. Back before network clocks, we all did fine without and nobody died.





  • Ignoring context, it would be unusual, but not inherently worrying. There’s plenty of mothers that help guide their daughters to an age appropriate sex toy, and some that will do the same for their sons. Rarer, there are fathers that will do so, but men have to worry more about external opinions about such. A mothers buys a dildo for their kid, the default assumption is that it’s weird, but not bad. A father does it, and the default assumption is that he’s over the line.

    That being said parents should be the default source is advice about such things, because a bunch of young idiots (as opposed to old idiots) trying to advise each other about things they don’t have much experience with is a recipe for hospital visits.

    In terms of general purpose guidance, and funding/ordering sex toys, there’s nothing wrong with a parent helping their kids in that way, assuming care is taken. There’s even an argument to be made that verbal instructions on safe use are even to be encouraged, and helpful hints aren’t exactly out of line (for real, a lot of young people masturbate in unhealthy ways that just a few sentences could prevent much trouble down the line).

    In context, with the info you provided in comments, the mother in question is not being a good parent in this case, so it fits the word abnormal in the sense that it is unhealthy.


  • Nothing, as long as everyone involved is aware and agrees.

    Negotiate everything ahead of time, be prepared to also have to enforce the agreements periodically since anyone making that kind of transactional merger of lives is going to be prone to wanting to renegotiate when life throws the unexpected at the couple.

    Just be aware that marrying into wealth means you’re going to have to bring more to the table than just being a stay at home wife. Even upper middle class folks that are willing to take a trophy wife damn well expect them to be a trophy, not just a random asshole off the street. The higher the income bracket, the more you’ll need to offer for a transactional relationship.

    Think about it. With enough money, a random woman or man can adopt on their own, so they don’t need a spouse for kids. They can hire a surrogate as far as that goes if it just has to be bio kids; then hire nannies. They can throw money around for sex, for housekeeping, even conversation. So you’d have to be damn good at a lot of things to make it more beneficial than just spending directly.

    If someone has the kind of income to fully support a partner, and it isn’t a love match, they’re going to expect you to hold up your end of the bargain. If that’s head twice a day every day, and you have allergies that make it impossible during the summer, shit ain’t gonna go well. And there is almost certainly going to be a minimum amount of sexual activity expected. Might not be much, but unless your rich partner is asexual, or otherwise eschews sex, it’s going to be part of the transaction, and it’s just a fact that customers expect prostitutes to perform for the money.

    You gotta work that out, what happens if one or both of you get sick, become disabled, change significantly on a physical level, etc. Hammer that shit out before there’s a legal binding.


  • Sync on my main tablet, because it has the best 2 column layout for my needs.

    Connect on my phone where 2 column isn’t really a big factor, with summit as an alternative on there because I never have decided which of the two I prefer.

    I don’t use lemmy on laptop/desktop because I dislike the experience via browser. It would be fine for passive scrolling I guess, but even with the various front end options, I run into more hassles than it’s worth when even the meh apps handle lemmy better and I just don’t need anything that could be gained via browser.



  • Kinda. Twice, depending on how you look at it. I did one of those “you can’t fire me, I already quit” things. The boss was just clueless and didn’t comprehend that when someone walks out at end of shift and says they’re not coming back, that’s quitting.

    The other time was due to a switch in managers at a fast food joint when I was a kid.

    One manager took a vacation, the fill in didn’t like long haired guys and looked for any excuse. He kinda got one, when I was late for a shift. Took the opportunity to say i was fired. Didn’t actually have the authority to do it, so it wouldn’t have counted even if the actual manager hadn’t come back and reversed it, though I didn’t know that at the time.



  • Well, part of it is the margaritas I specific. That tangy goodness is going to match well with the general range of spices used in Mexican foods. Fajitas in specific have that bold and spice forward flavor profile that goes well with anything citrusy. Tequila has a fairly distinct flavor that mixes well with that lime and orangey mix. Most people already put lime on fajitas to begin with.

    Stuff like guac is fatty enough to benefit from something like that to cut through it as well.

    So you’ve essentially got a mouthful of amazing flavors that are used in Mexican food because they go well together.

    Some alcoholic beverages are going to work with damn near anything. But if you tried a margarita with your meatloaf, you’d not be as impressed. Not until the fourth or fifth drink anyway.

    Something like a low hop beer goes with pretty much any non dessert foods, allowing for personal preference. But you can select bears or wines that would not do well with mexican. Or select for those that would be as good as a margarita. Same with a u cuisine; the right beverage enhances the food, and vice versa.