For me, I just feel more comfortable existing in the world as a woman. There’s no logic behind it; it just is. I feel depressed when I feel like a man in any situation, but I didn’t know that for most of my life. I just thought being miserable was normal. I didn’t even think I would want to be a girl until I was an adult. I had to experiment to figure that out.

I liked myself as a woman in sexual situations, but it turned out that I wanted to be a woman in all situations. As terrifying as upending my sense of self was, I’m finally happy.

Like I said, there is literally nothing wrong with having a fem kink. Kinks have been incorrectly demonized by science due to cultural biases against sexuality. Unless it hurts you or someone else, there’s nothing pathological about it. It also doesn’t mean you have to commit to a gender that isn’t right for you. Do what makes you happy! ❤