I’m often disappointed with myself when I’m angry. It feels like, “a stronger person wouldn’t be mad at this” or “I’m fragile/insecure”. Anger has been the hardest emotion to live with; it just feels wrong.

I always need external validation from others during/after anger. And worse, I need an endless supply of it.

Learning to validate myself is the obvious solution but I don’t have a clue where to start. A self-help book would just sit on a shelf. Do you have any tips?

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    This summer I took good care of my body. Minimized the drinking and eating and got down to my goal weight. I’m going to start lifting again and put on some muscle. My son even complimented my appearance!

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      Is there any way you can get your son involved so you can also pass that down to him and give him that extra head start on valuing working out and taking care of himself like you’re modelling for him currently?

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        Yes, he just moved back in with me. Willingly! We’ve got a lot of time together now