I made a similar post a couple of years ago, but I think it’s time again after seeing a few nice-guy/incel posts here. So, guys who have made it to the other side, what would you say to your previous self? I’ll leave my own personal answer in a comment below.
Understanding that I never progressed beyond the meaning of the original forum in terms of “involuntarily celibate”, my biggest advice would be to keep going. Keep doing the things that draw in the community and cause people to want to be around me.
I’d also give myself a few hundred massive warnings about the pandemic, and how not to judge my actions by those of others during a global crisis.
The reigning champion from this thread is “be someone other people want to be around”, which is admittedly a hard thing because it requires a lot of introspection.
I mean, I don’t expect people to want to be around me, because by and large I don’t like being around them in non-structured environments. So boardgames and RPGs help. Hence, bring the community.