Do not be afraid; hating yourself is so much worse than being hated.

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    6 days ago

    Yeah, I’m trying to decide if being more authentically myself is worth losing the cis buff (or the “cis” buff, if you prefer), and so far it hasn’t seemed like it for me yet. It looks like it’s getting closer to the tipping point, but I don’t know if it’ll ever get there.

    I wouldn’t be ashamed of being trans nor do I feel pride in being “cis,” but I’m not sure of my identity and there are a lot of negative externalities associated with being openly trans. I’m just cautious or cowardly, depending on your perspective.

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            3 days ago

            It depends, sadly. I (afab) dress pretty butch, and it doesn’t seem to have an effect most of the time. Men who dress femme definitely gain a debuff in most circumstances because people are shitty.

            The legal buff probably remains partially in place, because you won’t have your driver’s license rescinded without notice, but you might face bathroom discrimination or similar.