Do not be afraid; hating yourself is so much worse than being hated.
I’ve been wishing I was cis for the past 2 years.
Yeah, I’m trying to decide if being more authentically myself is worth losing the cis buff (or the “cis” buff, if you prefer), and so far it hasn’t seemed like it for me yet. It looks like it’s getting closer to the tipping point, but I don’t know if it’ll ever get there.
I wouldn’t be ashamed of being trans nor do I feel pride in being “cis,” but I’m not sure of my identity and there are a lot of negative externalities associated with being openly trans. I’m just cautious or cowardly, depending on your perspective.
what is cis buff?
The benefits you gain in society at large by being or seeming cis.
I guess that I would lose that by presenting GNC despite being cis?
It depends, sadly. I (afab) dress pretty butch, and it doesn’t seem to have an effect most of the time. Men who dress femme definitely gain a debuff in most circumstances because people are shitty.
The legal buff probably remains partially in place, because you won’t have your driver’s license rescinded without notice, but you might face bathroom discrimination or similar.
Right, there can be systematic discrimination from the government
why wish to be cis when you could just wish for transphobia to go away
Good point. Trans people will always exist, but transphobia doesn’t have to.
My phone storage is 90% TotallyNotJessica posts and 10% pictures of my dog. I like the change of tactic. Crack em with kindness this time.
I make like 2-4% of the memes I post, so I wouldn’t call most of them “TotallynotJessica posts”
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I’m also happy to be trans, wished I was born Cis as a woman (not a man), but I’m glad that I was born trans, because I would’ve hated my given name no matter what. At least God made my parents choose the more normal option for deadnames.
