I think starting to understand how a girl behaves who she has a thing for you.

There was this girl at the office who is our team.

I was not observing a lot but she was siiting beside me most of the time at cafeteria when we eat. It just didn’t resgister on my mind.

So the other day, I was eating and there no adjacent seats so she dediced to sit opposite to me. But before her, her friend came early and placed her plate in the opposite. This girl, later came and pushed her friend’s plate awkwardly away and sat opposite of me.

Am I reading too much into this? Or is my assumption valid?

  • Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world
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    19 hours ago

    I disagree that the rules and patterns are easy to figure out. However, I agree with your point about gut feelings and therapy.

    Different people can act/react in different ways, which is part of what makes these moments confusing. Sometimes gut feelings can clue you in to things you’re not consciously aware of, but in interpersonal situations gut feelings can also be colored by your own hopes, fears, and biases. Someone who likes another person may be more likely to read another’s cues as flirtatious. Similarly, someone who doesn’t like another person may read different cues as confirming that they aren’t liked in kind.

    Either way, this isn’t enough information to go on. I do get a positive vibe, but what that means can vary. She could like OP romantically, or she could like OP as a colleague and friend. Assuming romantic intent too soon can be disastrous, but building a friendship in the meantime has pretty much no downsides. Personally, I’d let it simmer for a bit and see if other signs come up before making any decisions that could jeopardize either kind of relationship.