I am planning to make a post on this to read peoples opinion.
Anyway…
Not hyperfixated on it but I have been thinking about how common sexualization/pornification has become, especially on women.
It raises beauty standard to unrealistic levels, and usually makes people be ashamed of their bodies.
I have also been thinking about sexual assualts .
Most victims are usually young girls and women.
Male victims are ignored, as if trauma wasnt a thing that everyone no matter the gender experiences in such crimes.
It is unfortunate that female victims usually have more consequences than male victims when it comes to sexual assualts. (They risk getting pregnant.)
The fact that porn(mostly consumed by males), movies, anime, and other forms of visual media are usually optimized( hypersexualized ) for “the male gaze”.
Not mentioning the dark industry behind it that only encourages sex trafficking of innocent souls.
It makes me disgusted, am I dirty for being a male?
Why are males generally more focused on physical appearance than women?
Why is the male gaze > female gaze??
I dont know, makes me feel disgusted and ashamed of myself sometimes.
Perhaps I owe women an apology on behalf of all of the mess some men are doing.
I do realize that I am generalizing alot, and there are flaws in this thought, but I cant get it out of my head. It’s also one of the reasons that encouraged me to escape porn and the dark industry behind it
I wish more men would have this conversation. I’m raising 5 sons and I decided early on to have some really blunt, uncomfortable conversations with them (age appropriate of course), to combat this. It’s worked, as far as I know. One kid, now adult, sometimes struggles with it. Porn, and toxic masculinity traits. But he talks about it openly and actively combats it.
I do sometimes weirdly look at mormon’s or other religious groups who practice abstinence and think they might have the right idea.
Porn addiction is real, and it does set unrealistic standards on what men think women are, and debases them implicitly.
I’ve been touch free for about 2 months now, and my intimacy and satisfaction during sex with my partner has improved dramatically. She’s stunning, but I had to literally quit porn to not take her for granted.
You quit porn to show respect for your partner! Congrats. As a woman, whose ex husband was addicted to porn, what you did is commendable. This wasn’t the sole reason he earned the title of ex husband, but it was a massive contributing factor.
porn and the manosphere has made masculinity super toxic, toxic masculinity probably has its origin in porn too. not only getting pregnant, but SA, and POTENTIALLY getting maimed is pretty much out there.
I am planning to make a post on this to read peoples opinion.
Anyway…
Not hyperfixated on it but I have been thinking about how common sexualization/pornification has become, especially on women.
It raises beauty standard to unrealistic levels, and usually makes people be ashamed of their bodies.
I have also been thinking about sexual assualts . Most victims are usually young girls and women.
Male victims are ignored, as if trauma wasnt a thing that everyone no matter the gender experiences in such crimes.
It is unfortunate that female victims usually have more consequences than male victims when it comes to sexual assualts. (They risk getting pregnant.)
The fact that porn(mostly consumed by males), movies, anime, and other forms of visual media are usually optimized( hypersexualized ) for “the male gaze”.
Not mentioning the dark industry behind it that only encourages sex trafficking of innocent souls.
It makes me disgusted, am I dirty for being a male?
Why are males generally more focused on physical appearance than women?
Why is the male gaze > female gaze??
I dont know, makes me feel disgusted and ashamed of myself sometimes.
Perhaps I owe women an apology on behalf of all of the mess some men are doing.
I do realize that I am generalizing alot, and there are flaws in this thought, but I cant get it out of my head.
It’s also one of the reasons that encouraged me to escape porn and the dark industry behind it
I wish more men would have this conversation. I’m raising 5 sons and I decided early on to have some really blunt, uncomfortable conversations with them (age appropriate of course), to combat this. It’s worked, as far as I know. One kid, now adult, sometimes struggles with it. Porn, and toxic masculinity traits. But he talks about it openly and actively combats it.
I do sometimes weirdly look at mormon’s or other religious groups who practice abstinence and think they might have the right idea.
Porn addiction is real, and it does set unrealistic standards on what men think women are, and debases them implicitly.
I’ve been touch free for about 2 months now, and my intimacy and satisfaction during sex with my partner has improved dramatically. She’s stunning, but I had to literally quit porn to not take her for granted.
You quit porn to show respect for your partner! Congrats. As a woman, whose ex husband was addicted to porn, what you did is commendable. This wasn’t the sole reason he earned the title of ex husband, but it was a massive contributing factor.
My guy that is amazing!!!
Thanks for sharing, I have escaped from porn, but I have yet to stop touching myself.
Good to know things are going well for you. 🤍
porn and the manosphere has made masculinity super toxic, toxic masculinity probably has its origin in porn too. not only getting pregnant, but SA, and POTENTIALLY getting maimed is pretty much out there.
manosphere, what is that?
Oh yeah, but it could also happen to some men too. Its unfortunate.