Pretty sure boy-moding at work to make life simpler is common and not just among NBs. The reality is everyone lives and works in the world as it currently is and chooses their battles.
In my case it’s more like Bowie mode. That level of fluidity seems to code for most outside the queer community as clearly “alt” but nondescript while still queer-coded to queer colleagues. The only “commentary” I get really is from other women and NBs, like pre-meeting compliment swapping or social check ins, so the nice kind.
E: That said, I’d drop Bowie mode and dial it up in a heartbeat if a new coworker seemed unconfident in their gender, so I guess I’m just looking for an excuse? sigh🥚irl
Pretty sure boy-moding at work to make life simpler is common and not just among NBs. The reality is everyone lives and works in the world as it currently is and chooses their battles.
In my case it’s more like Bowie mode. That level of fluidity seems to code for most outside the queer community as clearly “alt” but nondescript while still queer-coded to queer colleagues. The only “commentary” I get really is from other women and NBs, like pre-meeting compliment swapping or social check ins, so the nice kind.
E: That said, I’d drop Bowie mode and dial it up in a heartbeat if a new coworker seemed unconfident in their gender, so I guess I’m just looking for an excuse? sigh🥚irl