• lemmyknow@lemmy.today
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    22 days ago

    Random question but how the hell do people choose a name. If it were me, not sure that I’d be able to choose. Too many options. Good ones, even. Choosing just one feels like it’d be hard. Deciding on a final answer

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      21 days ago

      Write down 5 of your major personality descriptors, at least two positive and at least one negative. Go on a writer’s forum and ask for help coming up with names for your “character”. Do it like three times with different genres of writers. Choose the one you liked the best, or the most common one across all tests. Ez pz. I’ve had one acquaintance that swears by this method and she pushes it on anyone she knows thinking of transitioning. Good luck.

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      21 days ago

      I spent months at a deadlock with a temp name that was just kind of fine. Asked a few cis people how they felt about their name and got a resounding set of “meh!”

      Went with my temporary placeholder name. It doesn’t have to be great. It just doesn’t have to hurt.

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      21 days ago

      Disclaimer, I am cis.

      Friend 1 chose a name, but later switched to a variation of her middle name.

      Friend 2 chose a masc name when they were first experimenting with their new identity. Switched between they/he/they over about 6 mo. Finally seems to have settled on a gender neutral name and pronouns.

      Friend 3 chose a variation of their given name and then eventually a different name entirely.

      Friend 4 I didn’t know until after he was already comfortable in his identity. He uses a variation of his given name.

      Coworker 1 uses a word that isnt traditionally a name.

      All that to say, from what I’ve seen there’s a lot of options, and none of them are wrong. You might find that your initial choice doesn’t fit quite right, and it’s okay to experiment.

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      22 days ago

      Having someone or something refer to you with it helped me. I legit used Codsworth from fallout 4 to test out names, although that only works for pre programmed names. I’m sure a chatbot can be used in a similar way.

    • Justas🇱🇹@sh.itjust.works
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      21 days ago

      Also, you don’t want to have the name of someone you already know. If you do a job that’s client-facing you don’t want a name similar to someone else who does the same job in the area.

      Disclaimer: I am an actual cis man (seriously, not like the character in the op), but I have a 2 month old child and picking a name for them was one of the most difficult things we ever did.

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      I spent months at a deadlock with a temp name that was just kind of fine. Asked a few cis people how they felt about their name and got a resounding set of “meh!”

      Went with my temporary placeholder name. It doesn’t have to be great. It just doesn’t have to hurt.

    • Honestly though choosing a single name is only for legal purposes. Outside of that you can call yourself whatever the heck you like.

      We still make up names for ourselves and people call us them.

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      19 days ago

      My mum told me what name she had chosen in case I was born the other sex. Were I trans is use that name