As a 6’2 man the clothes I find which are right for my height are often very loose on me. And if I worry about the waist I look like a kid who grew a lot in the past 2 months and everything is too short for me.
Its not entirely universal, some stores are better than others. And I wear a lot of loose casual t-shirts so thats fine too. But finding dress shirts means some places work, some don’t.
I have a body that no clothes will fit. A very dramatic hourglass shape. If I see something cute, it definitely will not fit me.
Nothing. Fucking. Fits.
The worst part is the bras. The fucking bras!!! Why are US bra sizes so fucked?? I literally only wear ill-fitting sports bras now!!! Otherwise my tits are squeezed or wire stabs me or every other pain.
I also have stupid sensitive skin & hypohydrosis, so rashes & heat exhaustion are things I need to think about when getting dressed.
Idk if you already knew about it, but check out ABraThatFits
Don’t worry. I am built pretty straight up and down and nothing fits me either. I think that people with good fitting clothes are probably getting them tailored.
Could you wear a well fitted sports bra instead? Can you handle Merino wool fabric? The Branwyn Busty soft bra is so very nice and temperature regulating, I can wear it doing yardwork. Any other wool I absolutely cannot stand but the soft Merino knits can be very soothing feeling and they stay dry.
I can see only 2 arguments for learning to sew. This and being able to add or enlarge pockets
For me it’s that everything today is made out of some flavor of shitty plastic. Call ot whatever you want - “Active Wear”, “Cool Breeze”, “Dry Tech” - it’s polyester, it feels terrible, and amps my BO up to 11 even if I’m just sitting still.
I thought it was just me! I almost never have BO, unless I’m wearing polyester. Sitting for 8 hours in a football shirt is like equivalent to me not showering for a week.
I don’t understand it.
lol sorry about that. Polyester definitely doesn’t have that effect on me and unlike cotton, 100% polyester is pretty much unaffected by wash + dry cycles.
Cotton wears out stupidly quick in comparison.
So when buying off I’m interested i don’t even check sizes, I go straight for material. If it’s less than 70% polyester I won’t even consider buying it.
The apology is because stores do seem to be shifting towards folks like me. I love it.
Yup. Polyester feels way better on my skin than cotton, especially if I sweat at all. Also easier to maintain. I won’t buy anything cotton these days.
Look in your area for a shop that does ready-to-wear clothing alterations. Sometimes dry cleaners will offer those services. Altering a dress shirt to fit you better is a relatively inexpensive service and then you don’t have to worry about this anymore. As a 6’ tall woman, this is literally one of the reasons I learned to sew.
Paying of course.
Shoes. They might fit in the store, they might fit at home when I walk around with them for 5-10 minutes, but once I take them outside and they get dirty, suddenly it hurts everywhere.
34" inseam is too long 32" is too short. Thick legs compared to waist size so if I don’t go up a size the legs are too tight.
As a fellow tall, I don’t even buy things unless they are “T” sized anymore. Gave up on it a long time ago. My shirt size is “XLT”. There are sometimes things like work events or other places where they are giving away T shirts and they ask for my size and I tell them XLT and they are like “How about XXL?” and I’m like “No”. I don’t need to add another ill-fitting t shirt to the pile of shirts I will never wear.
Kohl’s has a big and tall section that is pretty reliable. The past few years I have been stocking up on Tommy Bahama clothing. I have a relative who works pretty high up the chain for their corporate office so I am able to get a discount which brings the price of their clothing down from “outrageously expensive” to “still pretty expensive”. It’s damn good quality clothing though. I have the Big & Tall Bali Skyline T-shirt in every color. It’s probably the most comfortable thing I have ever worn.
When I’ve decided something I bought a few months ago is perfect even after several washes, I try to buy another one, but that product is sold out and will never be seen again.
Yes! I hate this!! There seems to be an industry wide practice of never carrying any product consistently.
I understand that if something had to be put on clearance even in-season that they’re not going to buy more of it. But surely bringing back best sellers would be profitable?
Or even providing some mechanism for ordering previously-stocked items online? I don’t need to try it on and will order many units/variations because I already know I love it. Seems like an easy way to make money. Low to no returns too.
My autism manifests heavily on the side of hating certain feelings and very much hating anything tight on me. Anywhere. Makes it difficult to wear anything. Especially bras. Which is very bad as it’s very obvious I am not wearing one.
So instead of trying to find one that works I just have up caring.
Still trying to find comfortable clothes but if I find that, I care little how it looks. Usually. Until the anxiety manages to come screaming in.
Especially bras
Excuse if I am mistaken but isnt it the whole point to be snug while not being too small and bordering on squeezing you?
Yes, which is why they are absolute hell for my brain.
Sizing and needing to calculate.
Luckily I found a shop (online) that is nice to wear and has no bs sizing.
And it shows the real employees wearing the stuff.Mostly the “shopping” part.
Everything except pants. My legs are apparently within the bounds of normality but my head, hands, feet, and spine are simply too big.
You wouldn’t think being six feet tall would be such a hindrance to shopping. It’s not big enough to stand out in a crowd, so why is it so big as to be incompatible with mass production?
Deciding if I look a dick in the clothes I am trying on, or whether I really really look a dick in the clothes I’m trying on.
The one real advantage in going clothes shopping with a wife or girlfriend, for stuff for oneself.
As a woman? Brands that think tall ladies are just short women on stilts, so the pants are too short through the rise and shirts too short. We are not all legs! I can get a fit in pants by buying from the few places that have legit tall women’s clothes and then hemming them to fit.
Very close second place is bra shopping, same sort of problem - cup size scales up with wire diameter, but in general small boobs are not small around, they are just flatter, and on the other side big boobs can have narrow roots. They need 3 measurements not 2, like band length, wire diameter and cup volume all need to be moving parts.
Tall women are attractive. So feel better. :)
Tall women (5’ 7" / 170cm +) walk elegantly and have a poise often denied their shorter counterparts.
Never be worried about being tall. I wish I had been blessed. Both wives were 5’4". I’m 6’ 183cm.
I am about the same height as my husband (5’9") and was about the same height as my ex too, but his ex was tiny, and I joke with him about it because his sons are shorter than him, tell him tall ladies make tall kids, he should have planned better!
So really I’m not even that tall, just taller than women’s regular clothes are. At least they make them now, Gap and Madewell are both serious about tall sizes, the rise on those fits well, the inseam too long for me but that’s an easier adjustment.
And yeah I feel bad for really short ladies too, if the petites are just shorter inseams that won’t work either!
Husband is a lucky guy. I guess your ex was hoping for mean reversion (there’s a more appropriate mathematical term that I just can’t think of as I write), with/for his children…
I had a best friend as a sixth former (17-18 yo) who was around your height; I lost my bf because the person I was engaged (then married) to didn’t like her. Subconsciously, I’ve probably always compared everyone to her and the grace and poise with which she presented herself. I’m old now.
Scandinavian girls seem to be a reasonable height. I haven’t spend enough time over there to know for certain that it’s really a thing; and I wasn’t that sad to want to look it up! Wonder if that would suit too? It’s not the 80s anymore though, sadly, and dressing is very different and difficult now.
5’9" is tall. Hope you get to work/wear it well! I want to say ‘congratulations’ … it doesn’t make any sense but congratulations anyway! You/he won the lottery.
Your experience as a tall person and mine as a short person makes me wonder if these clothing makers have ever met a woman in real life. It’s like they are designing based a description of a woman they heard 5 years ago.
We have excellent online stores like Zalando that have changed my life. I order, clothes are usually delivered the next day, and returning is as easy as putting it back into the same box and driving to the postal office again. Money back within a few days.
They have perfected the clothes shopping experience for men. No more going to awkward physical shops.
My size is known by the shop, and I can order lots of variations of the same clothes, different sizes, just to find the perfect one that really fits me.
