Also wtf is the “Abused child forgive abusive parent and reunite happily ever after” trope, fuck that shit. Abusers do not deserve forgiveness.

Not to invalidate any experiences you or anyone else may have gone through, but this can get complicated in some situations. For instance, much of what my mom did to me as a kid would be considered emotionally/physically abusive. At the time, I definitely hated her for it. But as we’ve both grown and changed over time, I’ve learned that she had a lot of her own problems and was dealing with abuse in her life, as well. She took it out on me, and while it’s obviously unacceptable, I don’t still hate her today like I did then.

I don’t forgive the abuse she put me through, but I understand why she did it. She couldn’t break the cycle, and I can’t hold that against her; it’s fucking tough to get out of an abusive feedback loop like that. But she eventually did, and she’s a much better person now than she was then, and we’re on much better terms now. For what it’s worth, I’m also aware that my acceptance of this may also be a symptom of abuse. Again, it’s complicated.

Obviously, not everybody’s situation has a positive turn like mine did. I’m lucky enough that my mom knew what she was doing was wrong, and was able to change her ways. Some people aren’t as fortunate.

I think the sexual stereotypes are is that men hit And women tend to abuse through mental anguish.

Mental anguish is harder to portray on a screen than someone beating the fuck out of you.

This little theory, I’ve said you know ignores the fact that neglect is the most common type of abuse.

The four types of abuse are physical, sexual, mental and neglect. The vast majority of abuse that happens to children is neglect. It’s been a long time since I looked at the numbers, but I’m pretty sure that physical is The least common type of abuse

As others have pointed out, your premise is incorrect. Women are often portrayed as abusers, just not usually through physical abuse (much like real life).

It is represented in media, see the film Mommy Dearest. Even in the Wizard of Oz the woman is the abuser. The series The Terror streaming now, woman the abuser. Fatal Attraction, Cruella, Misery, Carrie, etc.

Never heard of Mommy Dearest?

Not really answering the question but if you’re looking for movies with an abusive mom, there are more than a few! (especially horror.) Off the top of my head:

Carrie is the classic, hereditary is a new classic. Braindead (dead alive) is a classic splatter horror.

Non horror: I Tonya, black swan, Mommie Dearest, Precious, Beau is afraid, Wild at Heart and maybe 8 mile?

Edit: My God, I’m forgetting/blocking one of the darkest movies I’ve seen in awhile, Bring Her Back.

Watch Carrie

Along with all the other examples listed here:

The Bear

Also wtf is the “Abused child forgive abusive parent and reunite happily ever after” trope, fuck that shit. Abusers do not deserve forgiveness.

No, but depending on circumstances and the work the abuser is willing to put into changing themself and making things as right as they can, forgiveness can be earned.

FWIW, in fairy tales the mother is the bad parent more often than not.

Have you ever heard of Marisa Coulter from His Dark Materials? Just to add to all the other examples people have given

Both of my parents were abusive in their own special way.

A few examples that came to mind that others didn’t list:

Psycho and its reboot or whatever. Possibly THE example.

Mindhunter definitely touches on abusive mothers.

And I don’t want to spoil it, but dear God watch The Bear and prepare to be fucking broken.

Sopranos, she literally tries to kill him.

Malcom in the middle did it

Boy, you’ve obviously never seen Precious (2009)